"Seeing is believing." For many, those words simply represent a motto. But for Eufemia P Abellera, it summarized in every way who she was. She was modest, quiet and observant, taking in everything around her and always thinking before acting. She was a realist, someone who was efficient and practical in everything she did. She was a friendly person who truly cared about those around her.
Eufemia was born on September 23, 1921 at home in Baguio City. She was the daughter of Delfin and Petra Amoguis. Raised in Philippines, she was brought up to be tolerant and trustworthy. As a child, she learned to be conscientious, responsible and punctual. These were all traits that she would carry with her throughout her life.
As a young girl, Eufemia was always aware of how others around her felt and this quality served her well. With a deep capacity to tolerate the feelings of others, Eufemia was generally able to avoid conflicts. It seemed as if Eufemia was the family member who was always working to keep stress at bay. Preferring a quiet environment where she could concentrate, Eufemia also had the ability to relate well with her family and friends. Eufemia was raised with ten. She had Dolores, Leonarda, Mary, Silvino, Sinforoso, Rosario, Veronica, Erlinda, Ricardo, and Deffin Jr. Eufemia was constantly involved in activities with her family. Eufemia and her siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up but they deeply cared for each other and shared many life experiences over the years.
Love can't be defined but must be experienced. That was so true for Eufemia. It was as if Eufemia naturally sensed her spouse's needs, and accepted those feelings unconditionally. Although Eufemia disliked conflict, she did not take flight from discord, but rather sought to preserve harmony even during the most trying times.
Eufemia was a good mother to her children. She had "old fashioned" parental values and could handle typical family conflicts in a fair and calm manner. Because she trusted emotions, Eufemia was reluctant to force issues and used gentle persuasion to resolve situations. In this way she seemed to radiate an aura of warmth and caring to those around her, always thinking before acting. In addition, Eufemia was a master planner. No matter how hectic life around her might be, she seemed to know and track everyone's schedule. Eufemia was blessed with fourteen, four boys, David, Jaime, Daniel, and Jose; ten girls, Corazon, Alma, Delia, Elena, Susan, Maria Luisa, Esther, Lourdes, Ramona and Lisa.
If you gave Eufemia a deadline, she would meet it. At work, Eufemia was always on task. Without hesitation, Eufemia could adhere to any assignment and see it through to its completion. Her primary occupation was homemaker. During that time, Eufemia excelled in working with small groups in order to complete assignments. She was able to quickly grasp concrete ideas and could organize and plan the best way to accomplish things with remarkable consistency. Eufemia was good at staying on track and was considerate in listening to what others had to say. In this way, Eufemia had a true gift for being able to come up with practical resolutions to difficult problems. She was often the team member who managed to put forth a win/win solution for all parties.
Eufemia passed away on January 25, 2011 at San Diego, CA. She is survived by her children and grandchildren. Services were held at St. Michael Catholic Church. Eufemia was laid to rest in Glen Abbey Memorial Park.
It is said that some people can't see the forest for the trees. Eufemia was able to focus on each individual tree, tending to its needs, thus making the forest stronger as a whole. Eufemia was a trustworthy, pragmatic and sympathetic person, the kind of woman to whom everyone was drawn. She was thorough and practical. Eufemia Abellera was very literal with her words. You always knew where you stood with Eufemia. She will be missed.