Frances "Becky" Bigner, 70, passed away October 29, 2009. She is preceded in death by her parents, Eugene and Fanny Schaffer; brother, Robert Schaffer; sister, Dorothy Jean Bowman. Becky is survived by her husband of 51 years, Bob Bigner; children, Steve Bigner, Linda (Craig) Shaddy, Lisa (Chuck) Sutcliffe, Lori (Darren) Masters; grandchildren, Justin, Nicole, Lynsi, Tawnya, Ryan, Nick, Aaron, Jaymie, Stephen; great-grandchildren, Kayla, Dominic, Brooklynn; nephew, Larry (Cheryl) Bowman; sister in-law, Phyllis (John) McDonald; special friends, Johnny and Janice Bustos and family; and other relatives. Becky loved to bake, make her holiday calendars and collect dolls. She was loved by many friends and neighbors. Viewing will be 3-7 p.m., Monday; and Funeral Services will be 10 a.m., Tuesday, November 3, 2009, both to be held at T.G. McCarthy Funeral Home. Interment will follow at Roselawn Cemetery. Please visit Becky's memorial at www.mem.com.
Frances Yvonne born to Eugene and Fannie May Shaffer June 27, 1939 in Pueblo, Colorado. She had two older siblings, bother Robert and Dorthy Jean. When she was 11 years old, her mother passed away and she was raised by her sister Jeannie. She talked about the kind, tender-hearted person her mother was and even though she didn't have many years with her mother, I believe this is where her kind nature came from. Her brother also passed away when she was very young.
Family and friends knew her as "Becky," when she was a little girl, she would call everything Becky, so the name became hers. She was also lovingly called "Beck" by her Dad and nephew Larry.
She graduated from Centennial High School in 1958. In high school, she became best friends with Phyllis Bigner. This is how she met my dad, Robert Bigner, who would soon be her husband. They were married November 22, 1958. Soon after they started a family, their first child, Steven Eugene, was born on December 16, 1959. Then Linda May born October 18, 1961, Lisa Ann born October 27, 1962 and Lori Lynn born May 25, 1969.
Mom was a stay at home mom and spent her life raising and caring for her family. She always made sure we all had our meals and we never came home to an empty house. She loved the holidays and did her best to make sure they were special and that continued throughout our lives, when her grandchildren came along.
Growing up, the things that I remember most were the camping trips on the Arkansas River and picnics with family at Greenhorn Meadows Park in Colorado City. Spending Christmas Eve's , Easter, and 4th of July picnics in our front yard on Holly Street with best friends, Johnny and Janice Bustos. Also, our trip in the back of a flat bed truck with a little cab that Dad had built, so all of could go on a trip to Disneyland.
She raised her first grandchild Justin Robert, who always had a special place in her heart. She dearly loved each and everyone of her grandchildren and great grandchildren. She also took in her Dad when was no longer able to live on his own. and in later years cared for her sister after her husband passed away. She was truly what a Daughter, Sister, Mom and Grandma should be.
She enjoyed baking especially around the holidays, she was one of Elvis's number one fans, liked to watch Bronco games and General Hospital. Loved her pretty dolls and stuffed animals. And of course loved to go shopping, she would spend the longest time looking at jewelry and spraying perfumes. Anything that sparkled would catch her eye. Oh, and I must not forget her little dog CJ who was in her shadow everywhere she went.
The last year of her life was very full. In November of 2008, we celebrated Mom and Dad's 50th wedding anniversary at the Pueblo Christian Center with close family and friends. I remember her telling me how much fun she had and how she wished she could do it all over again. Oh how I wish we could! We had a wedding shower for her granddaughter Lynsi, and we made our special mints. We also celebrated my 40th birthday in May. We had a party in the City Park at the Caboose for her 70th Birthday. Another beautiful day she enjoyed so much. Lynsi's wedding in July, the birth of her third great grandchild Brooklynn and one last party was her grandson Aaron's 18th Birthday. What a year! I'm just so glad she was here to enjoy all those wonderful occasions she loved to be a part of. She wouldn't have missed any of it for anything. I wish it didn't have to end. But I know in the years to come, on holidays and special occasions, she will be right where she belongs, deep in our hearts and we will feel her right there with us forever. She will be sadly missed by her family and friends. She made a difference in all the lives she touched.
Written By: Daughter, Lori Masters
By Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of friend.
Her referred to the dates on her tombstone
from the beginning...to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth
and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most was the dash
between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
that she spent on alive on earth
and now only those who loved her
know what that time is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars...the house...the cash...
What matters is how we live and love,
and how we spend that dash.
So think about this long and hard;
are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
that still can be rearranged.
If we could just slow down long enough
to consider what's true and real
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we've never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
and more often with a smile...
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.
So when your eulogy is being read
with your life's actions to rehash,
would you be proud of the things they say
about how you spent your dash?