Alford Carl Deaver Sr.

1935 - 2014

Alford Carl Deaver Sr. obituary, 1935-2014, Jacksonville, NC

BORN

1935

DIED

2014

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Jacksonville, North Carolina

Alford Deaver Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Apr. 24, 2014.

Alford "Edward" Carl Deaver, Sr., 79, of Richlands died Wednesday, April 23, 2014 at his home.

He was a member of the Infant of Prague. Mr. Deaver served in the United States Army Reserve for several years.

A Funeral Mass will be held Monday, April 28, 2014 at 12:30 p.m. at the Infant of Prague with Father Jeffrey Bowker officiating. Burial will follow at the Onslow Memorial Park.

He is survived by his wife: Phyllis Franzese Deaver; sons: Timothy Deaver of Richlands, Alford C. Deaver, Jr. of Greer, SC, Lawrence Deaver of Richlands, Peter Deaver of Richlands; daughters: Brenda Terrell of Jacksonville, Rowena Dail of Jacksonville; and ten grandchildren.

The family will receive friends from 6:00-8:00 p.m with a Rosary to follow at 8:00 p.m. on Sunday, April 27, 2014 at Johnson Funeral Home, Jacksonville.

In Lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Lower Cape Fear Hospice, Wilmington.

Condolences may be made at www.johnsonfuneralhomes.com .

Arrangements by Johnson Funeral Home, Jacksonville.

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May 19, 2015

Phyllis Deaver

In loving memory to the one and only love of my life. You have given me so many wonderful memories. A love that never ended but only got stronger through the years. Happy memories through smiles and tears. Two beautiful daughters. Brenda and Rowena. I know the lights in your eyes. (I'd tell you just like me). Four strong handsome sons (like you). You were always so proud of all of them. Ten grandchildren. Brandon, Jayson, Ryan, Stephanie, Justin, Tyler, Aaron, Michael, Victoria and Jessica. One great grandchild Sophia. Truly a very wealthy man blessed by God. I have so much to be thankful for. It was your smile that went straight to my heart. We laughed and loved and always knew what the other was thinking. Everyday would I hear "I love you six" and I would say the same back to you. Just a silly thing that meant so much to me. I know you were hurting but you always tried to do whatever I asked you to. I could hear you talking to Jesus so many times. So faithful. I thank you for all our years together. Fifty-seven. Not long enough. Always in my heart and mind. Your still all around me. I just can't see you but I talk to you all the time. I still look for you. I miss you so much. Each day is so very different now without you here in it. It doesn't seem right. I don't think I will ever get used to you being gone becqause everything I do comes back to you and then I remember your not here. I am so thankful that all of the kids have someone to share their life with. Its sad and lonely without you. You were so important to me and still are. I pray that you still feel my love for you. It can never be replaced. A once in a lifetime love shared between two people. You and me. I will always keep "I love you six" in my heart and know that "I love you six" back. This is not good-bye between us just a little while till we're together again. All my love, Phyllis

Posted by Phyllis Deaver

April 28, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HI ED,

ITS JUST ONE YEAR TODAY THAT WE LAID YOU TO REST. IT JUST DOESN'T SEEM POSSIBLE. ONE YEAR SINCE I SAW YOUR FACE AND TOUCHED YOU. ONE YEAR AND IT STILL SEEMS LIKE YESTERDAY. I SEE YOUR SMILING FACE IN MY MIND. I WISH WITH ALL MY HEART THAT I COULD SEE YOU AND TOUCH YOU. I GUESS YOUR IN A BETTER PLACE NOW. IT SURE IS LONELY HERE. WE STILL HAD SO MUCH TO SAY TO EACH OTHER AND THINGS TO DO. I GUESS ITS ON HOLD NOW UNTIL WE ARE TOGETHER AGAIN. TIME GOES BY QUICKLY BUT STILL SEEMS TO STAND STILL. I MISS YOU SO MUCH. I WONDER IF YOU CAN SEE US. I WONDER WHAT YOU ARE DOING. I WONDER SO MANY THINGS. I KNOW I HAVE TO KEEP GOING BUT TRY AS I MIGHT THERE IS STILL SOMETHING MISSING AND THAT SOMETHING IS YOU. I GUESS IT WILL ALWAYS BE THAT WAY. THERE'S NOTHING ELSE THAT I CAN SAY BUT THAT I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH. I WISH FOR YOU TO HAVE NO MORE PAIN. I WILL ALWAYS KEEP YOU IN MY HEART AND MIND. REST IN PEACE MY DARLING. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER I LOVE YOU SIX.

LOVE ALWAYS, PHYLLIS

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April 23, 2015

Rowena Dail

Hi dad it doesn't seem like a year has passed. So much has gone on since you have been gone. Paul I have closed our business and both of us have new jobs, which is taking some getting use to. Stephanie and Aubrey have blessed us with a beautiful baby girl your first great grandchild who you would love to pieces. She is beautiful dad and I love her. She makes me happy and I know she would make you happy too. When she's at the house I show her all the pictures and tell her who everyone is so she know you as she gets older and know that she has a wonderful great grandpa who would of loved her dearly. Ryan And Marlyn got engaged and are getting married in June, I am very happy for them and wish them the best. I miss you daddy o and I have been to see you and I talk to you and I know you are listening and telling me that everything is going to be alright and as you would always tell us kids daddy's gonna be ok and yes we know you are. Love Wenna.

Posted by Rowena Dail

April 23, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

Dear Ed

Today is one year since we have been apart. I can't begin to tell you how much I miss you. It doesn't seem to get any better. Your still in my mind and in my heart. I went to visit you today. Put more yellow roses there for you. They are pretty. The sun was out and it was so warm. I talked to you about all our years together. How fast they went. Fifty-seven years-not long enough. I think back to the beginning, year by year. So many good things. It seems like it should have gone on forever. You should still be here with me and the kids. I know they are all thinking of you today. I am so thankful they were all here with me when you left and went to Heaven. You are still here in the house with me. All around me. You gave me so much, but all I needed was you with me. Maybe time will make missing you easier but never in my heart. You will always be with me. I wake up and your there in my mind. I say good morning. When I go to sleep at night I say good nite baby. Maybe that's the way it will be. That I can always talk to you in my mind. I still look for you. Especially when I walk into the house and your not n your chair asking whats for supper? any coffee? any ice cream. Sometimes I would bring you ice cream and you would say yeah and smile that smile. All those things make me smile and I miss you so much. With just a look I know what you are thinking and it feels good. you gave me more love than I could ever put in words. I think of myself as being very wealthy. Having you and sharing you with the kids. Six beautiful children to remind me of you. So much to treasure now. A love to last a lifetime. I pray for you and the kids everyday. Thank you for all you have given me. I will always love and miss you and remember I love you six. Be at peace till we are together again. I love you six.

Love Phyllis I

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April 7, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

GOOD MORNING BABE,

WANTED TO TELL YOU ABOUT MY VISIT WITH YOU YESTERDAY. IT WAS SO WARM AND PEACEFUL THERE. THE LITTLE BIRDS WERE ALL OVER SINGING. THERE IS SOME SMALL TINY BLUE FLOWERS AND SOME SMALL YELLOW ONES GROWING ALL OVER. I FIXED YOUR FLOWERS. IT LOOKS NICE. I TALKED AND TALKED TO YOU. TOLD YOU I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU EVERY DAY. DID YOU HEAR ME? I THINK OF YOUR SMILE AND THEN I THINK YOUR WATCHING OVER ALL OF US AND I FEEL BETTER. EASTER WAS GOOD. CHURCH WAS GREAT. SAW LOTS OF PEOPLE YOU KNOW. I THINK OF YOU ALL THE TIME. THERE IS 7 BIG YELLOW ROSES THERE FOR YOU. FROM ALL OF US. I THINK OF YOU SMILING DOWN ON US. REST MY DARLING AND BE AT PEACE. KNOW THAT WE LOVE AND MISS YOU EACH DAY. I LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE, PHYLLIS

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April 4, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HI BABE,
ITS ME. JUSY WANTED TO TELL YOU WHAT I'M DOING. TOMORROW IS EASTER SUNDAY AND I JUST FINISHED COLORING EGGS LISTENING TO THE RADIO. SURE WISH YOU WERE HERE. I KMOW YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN RIGHT THERE WITH ME. THE EGGS ARE PRETTY COLORS. MAKES IT MORE LIKE EASTER. YOU KNOW I WOULD HAVE MADE YOU A BASKET FULL OF GOODIES. I BET YOUR EASTER IN HEAVEN IS SOMETHING ELSE. NOTHING HERE CAN TOUCH IT. ENJOY MY DARLING AND BE HAPPY. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. I LOVE YOU SIX.
LOVE , PHYLLIS

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March 30, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

ED MY DARLING HAPPY BIRTHDAY. HAPPY 80TH BIRTHDAY. WERE YU WATCHING ALL OF US? I KNOW YOU WERE. WE HAD SUCH A WONDERFUL DINNER FOR YOU. TURKEY AND ALL THE FIXINS. AND A BEAUTIFUL CAKE JUST FOR YOU. COVERED IN YELLOW ROSES AND ALL OUR NAMES FOR YOU ON IT. IT WAS JUST SO WONDERFUL. ALL OF US HERE FOR YOU. YOU WOULD HAVE LOVED IT. YOU WERE ALL AROUMND US. I SEE YOU IN THE KIDS AND I HEAR YOU TO. EACH ONE SO SPECIAL. WE PUT HAPPY 80TH BIRTHDAY ED, DAD, DADDIE-O, POPS,POPPY, GRAMPS, AND HOLLYWOOD ON IT. IT WAS SO GOOD. I KNOW YOU MUST HAVE HAD A WONDERFUL BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN YOU BUT WE WERE THINKING OF YOU HERE. REST IN PEACE MY DARLING AND KNOW WE ALL LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. I LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE PHYLLIS

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March 23, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

My Dear Ed,

Letting you know you are in my thoughts and heart. Its 11 months today that you have been gone from me. I think of you all the time. Time goes by fast but still slow for me. The kids are planning a birthday dinner for you and a cake on Sunday. You would be 80 years old. Time together was to short. Should I put 80 candles on your cake? You know it will have yellow roses all over it. I sure wish you were here with us. well my dear, wanted to say "hi" to you. I keep you in my prayers day and night. Remember I love you. Always. I love you six.

Lpve Phyllis

Posted by PHYLLIS DEAVER

March 18, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

GOOD MORNING MY DARLING

THINKING OF YOU THIS MORNING. THE SUN IS SHINeING AND IT LOOKS NICE OUT. YOU HAVE A BIRTHDAY COMING UP SOON. SURE WISH YOU WERE HERE TO BE WITH ME AND THE KIDS AND HAVE SOME BIRTHDAY CAKE. WE WILL BE THINKING OF YOU. ALWAYS. I WAS LOOKING AT THE STARS LAST NIGHT AND WONDERING IF YOU COULD SEE ME. I SURE HOPE SO. I AM LISTENING TO THE RADIO AND HEARING ALL THE SONGS WE LIKED TOGETHER. THEY MAKE ME SMILE WHEN I THINK OF YOU. WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW I AM THINKING OF YOU BUT I THINK YOU KNOW THAT. BE AT PEACE. I LOVE YOU SIX

LOVE PHYLLIS

Posted by PHYLLIS DEAVER

February 23, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

hey Babe, Its me. Wanting to talk to you. Its 10 months today that were apart. It still seems like yesterday to me. The days and nights are the same. Wondering where I am heading. I miss you. I talk to you all the time. I have real conversations with you. I didn't realize how much we said to each other during the day. I kind of thought we were quiet. But I find myself talking to you like you were still here. Going from room to room. Hearing something on tv. Or the radio. Wow! I miss you. Its been to cold for me to go visit with you but I will as soon as the weather breaks. Its cold. You have a birthday coming up soon, It will be our first one apart in 61 years. Been a long time babe but lots of memories. I have some really good pictures of you and me. I look at them a lot. Makes me smile. Then I talk out loud to you. Sometimes I really think of something and I laugh and laugh out loud. And no one knows but me and you what I am thinking. I'm looking at yOu now in the pool. Its a really good picture. Its that smile you have. The smile I love so much. Every night when I get in bed I say out loud another night without you babe. Another night. 10 months ago and I can still see everything in my mind. Holding your hand and your slipping away from me. I just didn't think it would be so soon. I know you were hurting and getting tired but I still thought not now. later. but not now. And then you were gone. I just couldn't get hold of it. I still can't. You were so here.
so much being with me and talking and now just me. No you and I am looking and looking. This just isn't right.
all we hoped for and now can't share it. I miss you. Time is running but it stopped for us being together. Its like the sun stopped coming out. how do I say I love you and miss you? I pray your looking down on me and the kids and know that your always in my heart. All my love forever. I love you six. Love, Phyllis

Posted by PHYLLIS DEAVER

February 14, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

TO MY SWEETHEART VALENTINE, HI MY SWEETHEART. WANTED TO WISH YU A HAPPY VALENTINES DAY. GOT YOU A PRETTY HEART AND YELLOW ROSES. I'M MISSING YOU AND WISHING WE WWERE TOGETHER. I HEAR YOU SAYING I'M YOUR SWEETHEART AND I KNOW IF I LOOK INTO MY HEART YOUR THERE. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. HAPPY VALENTINES DAY. LOTS OF LOVE AND KISSES. I LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE PHYLLIS

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February 2, 2015

Phyllis Deaver

Hello Darlin, Remember that? That face, that smile? Oh How I miss you! Got my radio on. I think I am getting better knowing you are not here in body. Its a rainy day out but I don"t feel so down with you gone. Maybe the good Lord is working thru me more than I know. Wish you were here. I'm listening to all of our songs. So good but not like when you were here. Not the same but makes you closer. Your smile won't leave my mind and I pray it never will. I pray you remember that I always loved you and still do. I just so wonder what you are doing in Heaven. Don't forget me. Valentines day is coming up. Am I still your sweetheart? I know I am. And your mine. Just wanted to say hi today. Don't know why, just missing you. All's well here. Kids are fine. I love you six. Love, Phyllis

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January 23, 2015

Phyllis Deaver

Hi Babe, Been thinking of you all day. Its 8 months today we have been apart. Its cold and raining hard out. I wanted to go visit with you. Just sit and talk. But its bad weather out so I will just stay put at home. Time is running and it still seems like you should still be here. You still seem so real to me. I'm still looking for you or expect you to be in the other room. I think a lot of where you are now. I wonder if you have any thoughts of me and the kids. I wonder if you hear me talking to you all day long. I fall asleep holding on to your ring. It makes me feel closer to you. I miss you so much. When the weather is better I will come and sit with you some and tell you all the family news. Everything here is good. Boys are working on the house. Always something to be done. When I get up in the morning it still seems like something isn't right. I should be helping you get up and dressed and have breakfast. Now all I have is time to do nothing. I sit at the table and have coffee. One for you and one for me. Then I wonder what to do today. I am trying to keep busy. Trying to fill the days but let me tell you the nights are no better. That bed is mighty cold without you in it. I try to think of something you might say to make me smile and then I fall asleep missing you and wanting you with me. It sure didn't turn out the way we thought it would did it? Well I take comfort in knowing that you are in a much better place. No more pain. I see you with that smile I love so much and I feel better. I will always love you. Be happy and at peace in Heaven. I love you six. Love Phyllis

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January 5, 2015

PHYLLIS DEAVER

Hi My Darling, Its the new year now. Sitting here thinking about you. Lots of things happening in the family. We will all be ok. When I was saying my prayers last night and looking at y0ur picture it seemed like you were looking right at me. So real. Was that wishful thinking or really you? I miss you so much. It doesn't seem to get any better. One day into the next. Kids keep me busy. They are so good. You would be proud od them. I am. You know me, they do no wrong. haha Are you smiling? See, I miss you. No one to spout off to. I miss that. Especially your whats for supper? and I say WHAT??? and you would laugh out loud. So much to say to each other and so little time together. I pray we will have a better year. The house is ok. Trying to put one foot in front of the other but there is always something missing. ITS YOU! Well I can do my crafts but I still come to an empty house. I think I will go down and visit with you for awhile. Be happy and pain freee my darling. I will always love you. SIX, no more no less. I love you six. love, Phyllis

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December 23, 2014

Phyllis Deaver

Hi Babe, its me again. Today is 8 months ago that everything changed. Still looking for you. Wishing you were here. I am trying to make my days and nights full. I talked to your chair today about the kids and the holidays. I have so many things popping in my head. Things we said and did. Some happy and some sad. Little things pop up and I think of you. Most of them make me smile. Went to see you and put new flowers. Put a Santa to. Its cold and rainy so I didn't stay long. I will visit you on Christmas day. Got a samll tree up. Rowena got it and Brenda decorated it. I sit and look at it and think of you. You always liked a real one. Its pretty. I know you will be with me Christmas Day. In my heart. I wonder if you see me and the kids? Sometimes I hear something and I think its you. Do you hear me asking you what you got me for Christmas? Oh the fun we had sometimes. I wish we could redo everything. Sophia is here. I wish you could see her. She is beautiful. At least you knew she was on her way to us. She has brought lots of happiness to us. The Lord gives and takes away. I'm still not ready to let you go. Always with me. Each day is no easier without you but so many times each day I look at your picture and tell you I love you. I smile and smile when I see your face. You know most of all the pictures I have we are always together in them. Guess we kind of liked each other, huh? See, it makes me smile. Tonight when I say my prayers and then talk to you I will tell you all about my day. I miss you so much. Nothing is the same anymore without you in it. I love you six. Love Phyllis

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November 23, 2014

Phyllis Deaver

Dear Ed It's 7 months today you have been gone from me. Its a rainy dark day. No sunshine. The day is so long and lonely without you. It doesn't seem to be any fun in it now. The holidays are coming and I just haven't gotten into it yet. I was wondering about the Christmas tree. I remember how you always wanted a real one. I remember you looking for the bird in the tree everytime it sang. I don't know if its good or bad I remember beause it makes me sad. Being alone is so hard to get use to. I don't think I ever will. I talk to you all day long going from room to room and there is no one to answer me. Time is going by but your leaving still seems like yesterday. I know you would be asking me if we have everything for thanksgiving dinner and I would say yes we do. Kids will be here. I wanted to come visit with you today but its cold and rainy. I got some pretty new flowers for you. Will try to come visit with you tomorrow. I miss you so much. Where is my coffee buddy? Your everywhere in the house. I don't like being aline. I want you back here with me but I know that will not be. Its a long hard road without you beside me. I will let you rest now and know that I love you and I always will. I love you six. Love Phyllis

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October 25, 2014

Phyllis Deaver

Dear Ed well babe its ben 6 months since you left. It still seems like yesterday. Things are ok if they can be without you in it. Weather is changing. Getting cooler. Still missing you each day. The nights are no better. I still look for you and wonder where I am heading. Haven't gone through any of your stuff yet.
don' know if I ever will. Where are you my darling and where am I going? Kids seem ok They don't say to much. I guess they all handle it in there own way. I am still trying to go on without you here but it sure is a hard thing to do. I hear it will get better in time but time is all I have without you in it. Trying to make sense to each day. Get up but what to do? Well I guess time will help me but I sure do miss you. you will always be my love. I love you six Love Phyllis

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October 16, 2014

Phyllis Deaver

Dear Ed I am sitting here and wanted to talk some with you. Everything is fine. Kids are all ok Went for my test and everything is ok. Dr said everything is fine so I thank the Good Lord for that. Its a big relief. I try to keep busy doing things but it always comes back to your not here with me. I thought I heard your voice a few times but I guess it was just some sound that made me think of you. Somestimes I think of something you would say or do and it makes me smile. Sometimes I laugh out loud. I talk to your chair and smile or laugh. Am I loosing it? Miss you so much. I can start driving again this weekend so I will come visit some with you. It makes you seem dcloser to me. Know that I am missing you so much and that I am always thinking of you. I love you six Love Phyllis

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October 5, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

ED MY DARLING TODAY I HAD A VERY GOOD DAY. WENT TO 10 O'CLOCK MASS. IT WAS SAID FOR YOU AND AT LEAST 300 PEOPLE WERE THERE. SO MANY PRAYERS SAID FOR YOU. LOTS OF FAMILIES WITH THEIR CHILDREN. IT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL. AND FATHER JEFFERY SAID YOU NAME SO CLEARLY FOR ALL TO HEAR. I SO ENJOYED IT. BUT WISHING YOU WERE THERE TO. I KNOW YOU WERE IN SPIRIT. ALWAYS THERE WITH ME. IT JUST MADE THE REST OF MY DAY A GOOD ONE. SAT OUT ON THE DECK AND THOUGHT OF YOU. SO PEACEFUL. THE BIRDS WERE CHIRPING AWAY AND ALL THE FLOWERS WERE OUT. MAYBE MY DAYS WILL GET A LITTLE BETTER BUT I SURE DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE NIGHTS. WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW ABOUT MY DAY. I KNOW YOUR WATCHING OVER ALL OF US BUT I MISS YOU. I LOVE YOU. BE AT PEACE. I LOVE YOU SIX LOVE PHYLLIS

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October 3, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HI BABE HAVING A BAD DAY TODAY. SO LONELY HERE BY MYSELF. DID MY CRAFTS READ A BOOK WATCHED TV HAD SOME LUNCH SO LONELY HERE. I THINK OF YOU ALL THE TIME MISSING YOU. ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY OUT WE COULD BE SITTING ON THE DECK AND LISTENING TO THE BIRDS SING. CAME HOME FROM ADORATION WEDNESDAY AND THE STRANGEST THING HAPPENED. I SAW A RAINBOW IN THE SKY BUT THE SUN WAS SHINNING. IT WAS SO PRETTY. IT MADE ME THINK OF YOU. WELL I WAS THINKING OF YOU TODAY AS ALWAYS, BUT JUST A LITTLE MORE LONELY. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. BE AT PEACE MY DARLING. I LOVE YOU SIX . LOVE PHYLLIS

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September 24, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

GOOD MORNING ED TODAY IS WEDNESDAY AND IT IS RAINING OUT. ALL NIGHT LONG. IT MAKES FOR A DREAY DAY. I WILL GO TO ADORATION AND SIT IN OUR PEW.IT IS CALMING FOR ME AND GETS ME THREW THE DAY. I WONDER IF YOU HAVE NIGHT AND DAY THERE. I GET IN BED AND THINK ANOTHER NIGHT WITHOUT YOU. WELL JUST WANTED TO SAY GOOD MORNING TO YOU. WILL KEEP YOU WITH ME IN THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. STILL MISSING YOU. I LOVE YOU SIX LOVE PHYLLIS

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September 22, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HI MY DARLING TODAY IS OUR VERY SPECIAL DAY DAY AND THE FIRST ONE WITHOUT YOU. I FEEL SO LOST HERE AND YOU THERE. 58 YEARS IS SUCH A SHORT TIME AND THEN TO BE APART IS NOT SOMETHING WE WANTED. I MISS YOU. I WENT TO VISIT YOU TODAY AND STAYED THERE TILL THE SUN WENT DOWN. I TALKED AND TALKED TO YOU AND SAID MY PRAYERS FOR YOU. I KNOW IN MY MIND YOU ARE IN A BETER PLACE BUT IN MY HEART YOU ARE HERE WITH ME AND THATS WHERE YOU WILL STAY. WE PUT 7 YELLOW ROSES ON YOUR GRAVE TODAY. ONE FOR ME AND EACH OF THE 6 KIDS. IT LOOKS NICE. YOU WOULD LIKE IT. REMEMBER WHEN WE GOT MARRIED? HOW WE LAUGHED SO MUCH LOVE IN ALL THOSE YEARS. I WISH WE COULD DO THEM ALL OVER AGAIN. I WONDER IF YOU CAN SEE ME AND THE KIDS I HOPE SO I TALK TO YOU ALL DAY LONG AND TO YOUR CHAIR. I WONDER IF YOU HAVE A CHAIR IN HEAVEN. GUESS YOU DON'T NEED ONE ANYMORE. I DON'T KNOW IF I SHULD WISH YOU A HAPPY ANNIVERSARY OR NOT BECAUSE WE ARE APART BUT KNOW THAT I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU MORE THAN I CAN SAY IN WORDS. SO MY DARLING HAPPY 58TH ANNIVERSARY AND BE HAPPY WHERE YOU ARE. TOMORROW WILL BE 5 MONTHS SINCE YOU HAVE GONE. IT STILL SEEMS LIKE YESTRERDAY. I PRAY TO GOD ALMIGHTY THAT YOU ARE AT PEACE IN HEAVEN AND NO MORE PAIN. ALTO I MISS YOU GREATLY THAT IS MY WISH FOR YOU AND KNOW THAT WHEN I THINK OF YOU IT BRINGS A SMILE TO ME. I LOVE YOU BABY AND I WILL REMEMBER ALL THE GOOD YEARS WE HAD TOGETHER. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. I LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE PHYLLIS

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September 11, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

ED I WENT TO THE DR TODAY FOR MY CHECKUP AND COULD NOT BELIEVE THE DR. I SURE WISH YOU WERE HERE. I JUST KNOW WHAT YOU WOULD HAVE SAID. HE CHANGED EVERYTHING AROUND TODAY AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK. SO I MADE AN APPOINTMENT WITH YOUR DR IN WILMINGTON. HE WAS SO GOOD TO YOU AND FOR YOU AND TO THE FAMILY. SO I WILL GET A SECOND OPINION AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS. I WENT TO VISIT YOU. DID YOU HEAR ME TALKING AND TELLING YOU ALL ABOUT WHAT GOING ON? OH HOW I MISS YOU. YOU REMEMBER OUR 58TH ANNIVERSARY IS COMING UP SOON. DON'T KNOW WHAT I WILL DO WITHOUT YOU BEING WITH ME. A LONG TIME TOGETHER BUT SO SHORT. I WONDER SO MUCH WHAT YOU DO IN HEAVEN. DO YU SEE ME AND THE KIDS? DO YOU HER ME TALKING? IT JUST DOESN'T SEEM RIGHT YOU THERE ME HERE. I AM STILL GOING TO ADORATION AND SITTING IN OUR PEW. I FEEL YOU THERE I FEEL YOU AT HOME I FEEL YOU EVERYWHERE. I MISS YOU A LOT WHEN I SEE COUPLES OUR AGE OUT TOGETHER AND IT REALLY GETS TO ME. ITS HARD TO LET GO. I DON' THNK I EVER WILL. WELL MY DARLING I WILL BE THER TO VISIT YU AGAIN SOON. TOMORROW. I LOVE YU I MISS YOU I LOVE YOU SIX LOVE PHYLLIS

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September 1, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HI BABE ITS ME. TODAY IS A HOLIDAY. KIDS WILL BE HERE LATER ON. ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY. SUN IS OUT. KIDS WILL GO IN THE POOL LATER. YOU WOULD ENJOY IT. WISH YOU WERE HERE. MISSING YOU SO MUCH. I CAN'T GET OVER HOW OUR DAYS WERE SO MUCH TOGETHER AND NOW THERE NOT. THE SUN WOKE ME UP THIS MORNING. IT WAS SHINNING SO BRIGHT THROUGH OUR BEDROOM WINDOW. I DON'T REMEMBER IT DOING THAT BEFORE. SO BRIGHT. WAS THAT YOU WAKING ME UP? I LIKE TO THINK IT WAS. IT MADE ME SMILE AND HANG ON TO YOUR PILLOW. I MISS YOU SO MUCH. ANOTHER DAY TRYING TO HANG IN THERE. WILL BE THINKING OF YOU WHEN THE KIDS ARE HERE. I WILL VISIT YOU TOMORROW AND TELL YOU ALL ABOUT TODAY. BE HAPPY AND KEEP WATCH OVER ALL OF US. I LOVE YOU SIX LOVE PHYLLIS

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August 27, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HI BABE THOUGHT I'D TELL YOU I WENT TO ADORATION TODAY. ITS THAT AWFUL WEDNESDAY AGAIN. I DID GOOD. I FELT YOU WERE WITH ME. ITS NOT THE SAME AS OUR TUESDAYS WERE BUT IT DID MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN HOW I FEEL. JUST MISSING YOU AND ALL WE DID AND SAID. I THINK I WILL GO EACH WEDNESDAY AND SEE IF IT DOESN'T HELP ME NOT HAVING YOU WITH ME. THE HOUR GOES QUICKLY AND IT IS STILL LIGHT OUT FOR ME TO DRIVE HOME ALONE. I AM TRYING TO FILL MY DAYS KEEPING BUSY BUT YOUR STILL EVERYWHERE I GO AND I THINK I WANT IT TO STAY THAT WAY. I KEEP TALKING OUT LOUD TO YOU AND I FEEL LIKE I KNOW JUST WHAT YOU WOULD SAY BACK TO ME. WE KNEW EACH OTHER SO WELL. PRAYING YOU ARE AT PEACE. I CAN HANDLE THIS AS LONG AS YOU STAY NEAR. I LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE PHYLLIS

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August 24, 2014

Phyllis Deaver

Hi My Darling. Its me again. Its been 4 months yesterday that you left me. My heart is still sore and broken. I don't think it will ever mend. Did you pick the 23rd to leave on my birthday number? Just one more way to tie us together forever. That's what I think anyway. I went to mass this morning and then went to visit with you. Its so quiet and peaceful there. You are in a nice place. Tomorrow at 9 a Mass will be said for you and I will be there wishing you were with me. I know you are with me. In my mind your are not here but I just can't tell my heart. I miss you so much. Yesterday was my first birthday in 60 years that you were not with me. I guess there will be a lot of firsts to come without you. I don't like it at all. You are still everywhere around me. The kids all were here yesterday to help me get through it. You know Ed I am beginning to hate Wednesdays. I think I will start adoration on Wednesday to help me with losing you. What to do without you I still can't get use to. Well my Darling I love you and miss you dearly. Be at peace. I love you six, always. love, Phyllis

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July 24, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

DEAR ED ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS SINCE YOU LEFT US. TIME GOES BY BUT IT STILL SEEMS LIKE YESTRDAY AND YOU WERE HERE. I MISS YOU , YOUR SMILE. YOUR VOICE, SEEING YOU SITTING IN YOUR CHAIR. SAYING HOW ABOUT A CUP OF COFFEE OR AN ICE CREAM? JUST MISSING YOU EACH DAY. KIDS ARE ALL WELL. WORKING HARD. I GO VISIT YOU AS MUCH AS I CAN BUT ITS HOT AND I CAN'T STAY LONG. I TALK TO YOU. DO YOU HEAR ME? I BELIEVE YOU CAN. I GET UP EACH DAY AND GO TO BED BUT THERE IS SOMETHING MISSING. ITS YOU! I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE YOUR GONE JUST GONE! EVERYTHING JUST STOPPED. EVERYTHING! ITS SO DIFFERENT NOW. I WISH I COULD CHANGE THINGS BUT I CAN'T. I GUESS I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU. I BELIEVE YOUR IN HEAVEN AND HAVE NO MORE PAIN. THAT IS MY WISH FOR YOU I WILL ALWAYS KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS. I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE PHYLLIS

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July 24, 2014

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July 5, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HEY BABE ANOTHER WEEK HAS GONE BY. THEY PUT THE STONE DOWN THIS WEEK AND IT IS BEAUTIFUL. YOU WOULD BE WELL PLEASED. IT MAKES ME FEEL A LITTLE BETTER SEEING YOUR NAME AND MINE. GOT MOST OF EVERYTHING DONE AT THE HOUSE. THE GIRLS HELPED ME. WE HAD A STORM THIS WEEK AND THE BOYS TOOK CARE OF THE HOUSE FOR ME. I SAID DO THIS AND THEY SAID "WHAT" AND I SAID DADDY SAID AND THEY SAID OK. BUNCH OF CLOWNS. THEY ALL ARE SUCH A BIG HELP. GUESS WE DID SOMETHING RIGHT BRINGING THEM UP. STILL MISSING YOU SO MUCH TRYNG TO GET IT TOGHTHER. REMEMBER AT NIGHT WHEN YOU WENT TO BED AND I PLAYED THE RADIO AND SANG TO YOU? WELL I STILL DO AND IT MAKES ME FEEL CLOSER TO YOU. KEEPING YOU IN MY PRAYERS EVERY DAY. I COULD HAVE SWORN THAT YOU CALLED ME LAST NIGHT. I KNOW I HEARD YOUR VOICE. NIGHTS ARE STILL BAD BABE BUT I WILL HANG IN THERE. I LOVE YOU SIX LOVE PHYLLIS

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June 26, 2014

Rowena Dail

Hi dad thinking of you and miss you.
I wish you were still with us but I know you are in a better place and that you are not suffering anymore.
Your first great grandchild is doing well and will be with us in a few months. Can't wait to share pictures of you and the baby. Will come see you soon. We are all helping mom so don't you worry about her. Lots of love Rowena

June 23, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

HEY BABY I WENT TO SEE YOU TODAY. ITS 2 MONTHS SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE. DOESN'T SEEM LIKE IT. SEEMS LIKE ONLY YESTERDAY. TALKED TO ALL THE KIDS. ALL IS WELL HERE. MISSING YOU SO MUCH. WENT IN THE POOL TODAY AND COULD SEE YOU THERE LAUGHING WITH ME. ITS JUST NOT THE SAME. WONDER IF IT WILL EVER GET BETTER. IT JUST SEEMS LIKE ITS MORNING THAN NIGHT , MORNING THAN NIGHT JUST BLURS TOGETHER. I LOOK UP AT THE SKY AND WONDER IF YOU CAN SEE ME. OUR TIME TOGETHER WAS SO SHORT. IT DIDN'T TURN OUT LIKE WE THOUGHT IT WOULD. WELL BABY I PRAY YOU ARE AT PEACE. YOU'LL ALWAYS BE WITH ME. I LOVE YOU SIX BABY. LOVE PHYLLIS

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June 14, 2014

Phyllis Deaver

Hi My Darling, Still thinking of you, still wishing you were here. The days are no better but a little calmer. The nights are so bad. Sometimes I just standup out of bed and know something is wrong and then I see your not there. The part of me that's you is gone and I just can't get a hold of not seeing you beside me anymore. Not seeing you sitting or standing or calling me saying where are you? I see you in my mind but not in person. How can you be just gone? I miss you so. Tomorrow is Father's Day and you know the kids would all be here for you. But its different now. They come but something is missing. "YOU" Brenda brought a pretty little flower piece to put on your grave. We are all going to Rowena's house for a cookout in the afternoon. We will all be there except you and you know you will be in out thoughts. I know you could not be in a better place but we miss you. Happy Fathers Day from me and all the kids. I love you six . Love Phyllis

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May 17, 2014

Phyllis Deaver

Dear Ed, Its been three weeks since you have been gone. The days are so empty and the nights so long. I slip into bed and reach to rub your back and listen for your "uh-huh"and your not there and it is so hard being without you. Your everywhere in the house. I go to say something to you and your not here. Then I remember and the tears come. So many tears I don't know where they come from. The kids are so good. Always here or calling me. You would be so proud of them. So different and so precious. I know they miss you. I see you in the boys. The way they walk or smile. I see you in the girls faces. I miss you so much. I visit you each day and I tell you all they do and what their up to. Always busy. I know where you are. In heaven. No pain anymore. I know you can see again and use your hand and walk with no brace. But I miss you. I say the Rosary everyday for you. I love you and I miss you and I need you to help me hold on, I don't know how two people can be separated but still be so together. You know I always only wanted to be "Mrs. Deaver and you made me that so long ago, You would say "hi" Mrs. D and I would say "hi" M. D and that smile you would give me was so priceless. I will love you always and I will see you again. I love you with all my heart and I love you six, Love, Phyllis

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May 8, 2014

marianne colao

Dear Deaver Family,
So sorry for your loss. Sending love and prayers to you all.
With love,
Marianne Colao

May 8, 2014

Rowena Dail

Dad, I miss your smiling face. love you!!! Wena

April 30, 2014

Rowena Dail

Dad, I know you are at peace but my heart is still hurting. I will always remeber the good times we had together and your great big smile that made us happy. Love you dearly and miss you bunches!!! Rest in peace. Love you Rowena

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April 29, 2014

Jim Ingersoll

Dear Aunt Phyllis, cousins, and family. So sorry to hear about Uncle Ed and I know that I can not understand all the emotions you are feeling about loosing someone so special and dear to you all. I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that although we are not their with you you are always in our thoughts and prayers. There is not a day that goes by when Mom doesn't mention your name or try to jump in the car and drive down to see you herself. The pictures look great and it nice to see all of them. Keep close all the good memories of your Dad and remeber you will all meet him again soon. Out of body present with the lord. All our Love.

April 28, 2014

Brenda Terrell

To My Family,

Dad would be so proud of all of us today. We carried out his wishes and honored him in the best way possible by doing so. I know dad would have loved every bit of it, including the Honor Guard and flag. Love to all....

April 28, 2014

Veronica Palumbo

Though we may be apart I still keep you in my heart.
To my Aunt Phyllis and my cousins my thoughts have been with you all.
UNCLE ED I will miss you.
Love you all
Veronica

April 27, 2014

Cindy Deaver

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April 26, 2014

Cindy Whaley DEAVER

I'm gonna miss hearing "Hey Cindy D!" Poppy you have given me so many good memories to hold in my heart. One of the best gifts you gave me was Petey Boy. Pete's a good man and this reflects back on you being a Great Dad. All your children I know you are proud of, you spoke fondly about. Thank you for always loving me like a daughter. I thank God for all time we had to spend with you. But I know your heart was tired. I can see you doing what you love mowing grass in Heaven smiling. I love you Ed/Poppy, when I think of you with a tear followed by a smile of a memory you gave me. Love "Cindy D"

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April 26, 2014

Tommy Ingersoll

Dear Aunt Phyllis and all my cousins and your families.Our thoughts and prayers go out to you at these very sad time.I know i don't see you all that often,but i think about you all the time.I will miss you uncle Eddie,and i know i will see you again.

April 26, 2014

Alford Deaver, Jr

A Dad is a son's first Hero...

Thank you for being my Superman!

I LOVE YOU DAD!

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April 26, 2014

Anthony Landreth

Even though I never met him I am still sad that he has past away but we should all remember that he is going to a better place now.

April 26, 2014

Kim Landreth

To all the family, my heart goes out to you. Poppy and Grandma always made me feel welcome and loved. I still remember the smile he always had when I came over and I will never forget that laugh he let out on his birthday because of the holes in Grandma's shirt. I am glad I got a chance to meet such a wonderful man..and Grandma,know he is always with you. My heart breaks for you and I am always here if you need me

April 26, 2014

Brandon Terrell

"Poppy" it hurt the day you passed and left us here, but in my heart I know that you are still near... Never gone, never forgotten.. We all love you and miss you.

April 25, 2014

Theresa VanderVere

Brenda. I am so sorry for your loss. I will remember your dad and your family in my prayers.

April 25, 2014

PHYLLIS DEAVER

Ed, you left me today and my heart is split in two. I miss you and I don't know what to do. The kids are here with me. I see your face. I miss your smile and your touch and I don't know what to do. I hear you talking to Jesus and I am holding your hand and you slip away. You were ready but I was not. Help me baby, I need you. remember Brenda( hey dad I'm here for my morning coffee), Timmy (what are you doing??)Rowena( hey daddio) Alfie ( Hi pops), Larry ( Hey boss man!) and Petie ( Hey Hollywood) would always make you smile. You would always respond I love you six just the way you would always tell me everyday. I will always keep you in my heart and I love you six....... Phyllis

April 25, 2014

Rowena Dail

Hey Daddio! whats up? I will miss you and love you always!!!
love Wena

April 25, 2014

Brenda Terrell

To My Family,
Mom, we thank you for giving us our dad for all these years. Your love and care made it possible for us to share dad for so long.
We watched that day as dad quietly slipped away. It was not for us to say how much longer dad could stay.
Dad is now away but only for a short time. Dad's prayers have been answered. Families are truly a treasure from Heaven.

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