BORN

1933

DIED

2013

FUNERAL HOME

Hillcrest Memorial Park and Mortuary

9101 Kern Canyon Road

Bakersfield, California

Fay Alesso Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jan. 28, 2013.

Fay (Reynolds) Alesso June 6, 1933 - January 24, 2013 Fay was born in Rector, Arkansas on June 6, 1933 to Corbett and Orine Reynolds. Corbett and Orine brought their family to Bakersfield in early 1937. Fay attended various elementary schools in Bakersfield, Panama Junior High School and Kern County Union High School (aka Bakersfield High School). Fay graduated from high school in 1950. She met the love of her life, Ernest D. Alesso when she was just 13 and they were married 4 years later. They celebrated their 62nd wedding anniversary on January 13, 2013. Fay is predeceased by her mother Orine Reynolds, her brother Clyde (Ed) Reynolds, and her father Corbett Reynolds. She is survived by her loving husband, Ernest D. Alesso, sons David L. Alesso and wife Eileen, Michael J. Alesso and wife Lynn, and daughter Judy Fay Alesso, grandchildren Michael J. Alesso II, and Alexandra Paige Alesso, sister Joyce Dobbs and her husband Kenneth Dobbs, her two dear sisters-in-law, Gloria Alesso and Mardean Alesso and numerous nieces, nephews, great-nieces and great-nephews. Fay had countless long time friends, many of whom she knew for more than 50 years. Especially dear to her heart were Joyce Thompson, Wilma Hender, Maude (Ellen) Freeman, Eva McNaughton and Gloria Henderson. Fay had a great capacity for loving people outside of her immediate family, which was evident by how she touched the lives of so many people. She never met a child she didn't love and was a second mother to many. She opened her home to foster children and friends of her own children who were going through rough times or just needed a place to stay. Her heart, arms, and door were always open to those in need. She wanted you all to know that if she told you she loved you, she loved you. She worked for 14 years as a Nutrition Aide for the University of California Extension Service through the Farm and Home Advisors Office teaching nutrition and money management to people in low-income areas of Kern County. She also volunteered at Beardsley School when her children attended there. She was a Cub Scout leader, Girl Scout leader, taxied what seemed like half the children in Oildale to and from school and sporting events. She was a great cook and loved to bake and is well known for her "buns", carrot cake and apple pie. Fay is already and will continue to be sorely missed. We take great comfort in knowing that she went home to be with Jesus Christ her Lord and Savior on Thursday, January 24, 2013. Visitation/viewing is Friday, February 1, 2013 from 4:00 pm to 8:00 pm at Hillcrest Memorial Park & Mortuary. Memorial services will be held on Saturday, February 2, 2013 at 10:00 am with interment and reception following at Hillcrest Memorial Park & Mortuary located at 9101 Kern Canyon Road in Bakersfield, California. In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation to the Kern County branch of Hoffmann Hospice;nbp&of the;nbsp&Valley located at 8501 Brimhall Road, Bakersfield, CA 93312 or at hoffmannhospice.org. The family would like to thank the following: Debbie, Mark, and Juanita from Hoffmann Hospice, the caregivers, nurses, and doctors at San Joaquin Community Hospital, Wayne Budney from Helping Hand Senior Care Services and the staff at Dean's Care Villa for taking such exceptional care of Fay.

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January 24, 2024

Family

Judy Fay Alesso

11 years. Doesn’t seem possible. I MISS YOU, I LOVE YOU, I THANK YOU!!

June 6, 2023

Family

Judy Fay Alesso

Happy 90th Birthday Momma! I Miss you and your infectious smile. Not a day goes by that I don’t wish for one of your cure all Hugs! I Love you, forever and beyond.

June 7, 2021

Daughter

Judy F Alesso

June 6HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMA! I am so grateful for this day, the day that you were brought into this world. You touched so many lives and made them all better, just by being you. I know that I am blessed beyond measure because of you and Pop and the Love that you gave me. Thank you for showing me what unconditional Love looks and feels like. I miss you every dayI LOVE YOU!

January 24, 2021

Daughter

Judy FAY Alesso

Today, for the first time in 8 years, Pop can kiss you instead of kneeling down to kiss your headstone. I realize and accept that my heart ache will never lessen, that this void will never be filled and, no matter how many years pass, it will always hurt like it happened yesterday. I am happy for your reunion with your sweetheart but, what a toll not having either of you here with me has taken on my heart. I will sit by the ocean today and manage a smile or 2 through my tears, as I recall the numerous, wonderful memories that I have of you... my Amazing Momma.❤ To God and to you...THANK YOU!, THANK YOU!, THANK YOU!!
I LOVE YOU MOMMA!

June 6, 2020

Daughter

Judy Fay Alesso

Happy Birthday Momma. I Love you and Miss you...every second of every minute of every hour of every day!!

May 10, 2020

Daughter

Judy Fay Alwsso

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MOMMA! ❤
Today was created for YOU, for you are the perfect example of what a Mother should be!
I am reminded every day how blessed I am to be able to call you Mom. You are a part of everything I do and lucky for me, your influence guides me daily. I Miss you and Love you beyond measure...Thank you for being mine!

January 24, 2020

Daughter

Judy Fay Alesso

7 years and the heartache still feels new. I put one foot in front of the other and I keep going but, it is obvious that I am lost without you.
You always knew how to make everything better. I do my best to stay strong for your Sweetheart...he will NEVER see me cry!
We talk of you often and I know he wants nothing more than to be with you. I miss you so much Momma. THANK YOU for the Love, the laughter and the life you gave me...I am FOREVER grateful! I LOVE YOU!!

June 6, 2019

Daughter

Judy Fay Alesso

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMA!! I wish so badly that I could hug you. I will celebrate you today, maybe even eat a piece of cake for you. I Love you Mom and Miss you more than I could ever explain. Forever and Beyond

May 12, 2019

Daughter

Judy FAY Alesso

May 12, 2019
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MOMMA!!!❤ So hard to celebrate today without you here. I make sure to wish a happy Mothers day to my other Moms that have watched over me since youve been gone. You are thought of, missed and Loved more every day! Today I will celebrate you and the Amazing Mother that you were, not only to your own children but, to countless of your children's friends. Your Mom hugs were needed and appreciated by all those lucky enough to receive one. I will forever be so proud that you are MY MOM...Not a second goes by that I dont recognize the fact that I am the luckiest girl in the world...Forever blessed that God found you for me! I LOVE YOU MOMMA...Forever and Beyond.

May 1, 2019

Daughter

Judy Fay Alesso

May 1,
Birthdays arent the same without you to celebrate with. You are missed so much each and every day and, Loved even more! Thank you for my wonderful lifeI LOVE YOU MY SWEET MOMMA!!

January 25, 2019

Daughter

Judy F Alesso

So hard to believe youve been gone for 6 years! (1-24-13). For some reason, this year is particularly difficult. I am sitting with you at the cemetery, giving you fresh flowers. I cant begin to explain how different the world is without you in it. I miss you Momma. I Love you Forever and Beyond.

December 25, 2018

Judy Fay Alesso

Merry Christmas Momma! It's the 6th Christmas without you and it still feels like the first. I do my best but, Christmas will never be the same for mewithout you! I will try to make it special for Pop but, I know he too feels the empty space that can't be filled. I remember how special Christmas was to youbaking cookies, decorating, sharing the holiday spirit with Family and Friends. And, the Christmas lightshow you Loved all the Christmas lights. Your Love of the lights is just one of the many special things you passed on to me...Thank You! I Love You Momma, Thank You for the wonderful Christmas memories.

June 6, 2018

Daughter

Judy Fay Alesso

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMA (June 6). You are missed so much! I LOVE YOU!

May 13, 2018

Daughter

Judy F Alesso

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MOMMA! I celebrate you today and remember how blessed and grateful I am to call you My Momma! I will try to turn today into a happy occasion but, I dont have much faith that it will happen. You are in my thoughts daily and missed more and more with each passing day. I Love You so much Momma. Thank You for being such a wonderful Mother and for giving me such an amazing life!

May 1, 2018

Daughter

Judy F Alesso

So hard to celebrate my birthday without you. You always made it so special. I cherish all of my memories of youmakes me smile for a few moments, then tears. I miss you every, single day Momma...I LOVE YOU!

January 25, 2018

Daughter

Judy F Alesso

January 24 is a date that will never be forgotten. I cant believe its been 5 years since you were called home. It hasnt become any easier or less painful, you are missed constantly. I drove to Bakersfield today to give you flowers and to talk to you. Everything has changed since youve been gone. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving along. Not exactly sure where Im supposed to be going. Your other daughter Elaine, always makes sure to send me a message on yours and Pops anniversary (1-13) and today (1-24). She sends a big hug, a kiss and her Love to Pop and lets me know shes thinking about me. I think her heart broke as much as mine when you left. Pops memory shrinks more every day with his dementia but, he never forgets his Sweetheart! He misses you tremendously. He is doing well and looks forward to our daily walks. I Miss You and I am forever grateful that you are my Momma...I Love You.❤

December 25, 2017

Daughter

Judy Fay Alesso

Merry Christmas Momma. Christmas has never been and will never be the same without your smiling face here with us. I just couldnt get it together this year, Im sorry. Thank you for always making Christmas so special for all of us. I can never fill your shoes. I Miss you and Love you so very much.

November 23, 2017

Judy F Alesso

Thanksgiving is here again, tears are falling again and you are missedALWAYS!! Pop says sure do miss your Momma! Me too Pop, me too! I Love You Momma. I am forever thankful for you!

June 6, 2017

Judy Fay Alesso

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOMMA! I will celebrate you today and miss you every second. Can't begin to explain the pain/void in my heart. It NEVER lessens. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!

May 14, 2017

Judy Fay Alesso

Oh my Sweet Momma... Happy Mothers Day. Such a bittersweet day as I am so grateful for you and to you but, I am so heartbroken that I can't see your beautiful smile and give and receive the best hug ever. To say you are missed is such an understatement. Words cannot convey the Love I have for you or the pain I have without you here. I do feel your presence when I need it most and that is always comforting. And having your Sweetheart with me dally is a Tremendous comfort and reminder of you. Pop is truly one of the most precious people on earth. I will thank God for the gift of YOU tonight in my prayers and to you my Sweet, Beautiful and Loving Momma...know that you are Loved more and more with every passing second. Forever in my heart, Forever part of my soul , Forever my Precious Momma. I LOVE YOU FOREVER AND BEYOND

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May 2, 2017

Judy F Alesso

I miss you so much on my Birthday! I miss the homemade strawberry shortcake, the home cooked meal and most of all I miss you and you singing "Happy Birthday" to me. I Love You Momma. May 1

January 24, 2017

Judy Fay Alesso

4 years ago today, my life changed forever. I feel like I have been living with only half of my heart. I believe the other half went with you. I know how blessed I am to have you and Pop as my parents and I know how Loved I was/am. If every person on this planet was loved just a fraction of how much you loved me, this world would be more peaceful, more kind and more beautiful! Momma, Thank You for making my world beautiful! I Miss You so much. Time does not heal, it simply passes. There are certain wounds that never heal, my heart is proof of that. I LOVE YOU!❤

January 13, 2017

Judy Fay Alesso

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MOMMA! Today is yours and Pops 66th wedding anniversary. Sure wish you were here. Pop misses you so very much and now that his beloved Mija has joined you, he is beyond broken hearted. In spite of his heavy heart, he is doing well and is still the most wonderful man I have ever known. How blessed I am that you and he found each other and began your lives together 66 years ago. I MISS YOU MOMMA and I LOVE YOU and appreciate you more and more everyday.

December 25, 2016

Judy Fay Alesso

Merry Christmas Momma. Your presence is felt and your hugs are missed. My Christmas memories from childhood bring a smile to my face. So many wonderful Christmas mornings. Thank you so much for always doing your best to make our Holidays so special. Your magic touch is definately missing but, I still try. I will head to the cemetery shortly and sit and play your favorite Christmas songs. It is my tradition for the last 3 yrs. and it brings me comfort. I miss you Momma. I hold onto the memories tightly and Thank the good Lord for giving me to you and Pop. I Love You .

November 24, 2016

Judy FAY Alesso

The holidays are here again, My heart is still broken and you are still missed every second of every day. Pop is doing well. He just had a visit from your best friend/ '"sister", Joyce Thompson. She was in Calif. and made sure she saw your sweetheart. I miss you so much Momma!! I LOVE YOU!!

June 6, 2016

Judy Fay Alesso

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY SWEET MOMMA. Saw so many butterflies today. I know you were with Pop and I as we visited you and changed your flowers. You are missed by so many. I received at least 8 messages today from your "other kids", telling me they were thinking of you on your Birthday. You touched so many lives. There is still such a void and Pop says daily " Sure do miss your Momma". You are forever in our hearts. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!

May 9, 2016

Judy Fay Alesso

Mother's Day is no longer a happy occasion. I think of you, thank God for making you my Momma, then I stay as busy as I can...so I don't have to think about you not being here! I Love You and Miss You beyond explanation.

May 2, 2016

Judy Fay Alesso

Always miss you so much on my Birthday! I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU MOMMA!

March 27, 2016

Judy Fay Alesso

HAPPY EASTER MOMMA! I Love You and Miss You so very much!

January 24, 2016

Judy Fay Alesso

3 years have passed and yet the heartache still seems so fresh. Time really has no meaning, as My heart is frozen in the moment that it was broken. I find comfort in being with and taking care of Pop, as I carry out your request to "Take care of my Sweetheart". A promise I would have made and kept even without you asking. I know you are happy and smiling upon us all. I know during my darkest and challenging days that you are with me, holding me tightly, reassuring me that the sun will shine again. So many wonderful memories to make me smile. Thank you for making my life so blessed! Thank you for being the BEST MOM EVER! Thank you for being such a perfect example of a beautiful human. Most of all Mom, Thank you for your unconditional, unwavering, Love and support. I will always do my best to make you proud. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU every second of every day!

December 27, 2015

Mike Alesso

Mom,

I miss you every day and more around the Holidays. I know how special Christmas was to you. I wish you could have been here for this special Christmas memory, as Michael proposed to his girlfriend! I feel you smiling down on us! I love and miss you always!

December 26, 2015

Judy Fay Alesso

Merry Christmas Mom. So many wonderful memories. Thank you for giving me such a beautiful, loving life. I am blessed. I MISS YOU SO MUCH!

November 26, 2015

Judy F Alesso

Here we go again...holiday season. So very hard without my Momma! I will do my best to make a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner for Pop. Nothing can compare to Momma's cooking. I miss watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade with you Mom. So many great holiday memories. I cherish them all and will remember them fondly today...maybe it will help me smile. I MISS YOU! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!

June 6, 2015

Judy Fay Alesso

Happy 82nd Birthday my sweet Momma!! It goes without saying that I wish so badly that you were here. I wish we were going out to dinner to celebrate. Instead, I will rely on the many wonderful memories of your previous birthdays. I miss you and love you so much. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. Tears still fall and my heart is still broken. It feels as if a piece of me is missing. I Love You Mom...Happy Birthday!

May 10, 2015

Judy Fay Alesso

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MOMMA!! You are thought of on a daily basis but, days like today you are in my thoughts constantly. Your picture should be in the dictionary next to the word 'Mother'. You are the true definition. I'm still learning from you and imagine I will for the rest of my life. I will give Pop a giant hug and a smooch for you! I Miss You and Love You so very much!

May 1, 2015

Judy Fay Alesso

Birthdays are not the same without you. No homemade strawberry shortcake, no happy birthday song with your sweet voice and no big birthday hug from your comforting arms. I miss you beyond explanation. How lucky I am to be your daughter. Thank you for ALWAYS making my birthdays special. I love you Momma!

January 24, 2015

Judy Fay Alesso

Two years have passed since the worst day of my life, Yet it feels like time is standing still. Not a day goes by that you are'nt in my thoughts. I miss you so much! You were the glue that held everything together. It is such a struggle to keep it together without you. I hold all the memories close to my heart and cherish the time we had together. I am still amazed at how fortunate I am to have been chosen to be your daughter. God did such a wonderful thing bringing us together. I still wish I could find my birth Mother. I truly need to thank her for doing the most unselfish act when she put me up for adoption. I need to thank her for making it possible for me to have the most amazing Mother a child could hope for. You were my biggest fan, my fiercest protector, my strongest ally, my mentor...MY MOM. I am so grateful to God, to her and to MY AMAZING MOM. I miss you more than I can possibly express and I love you more everyday.

December 25, 2014

Judy F Alesso

Merry Christmas! My second Christmas without you. I keep waiting for it to be easier but, I don't think it ever will. I miss your smile, your laughter and the sparkle in your eye at Christmas time. I remember helping you make cookies and rolls. So many precious and priceless memories! Thank you for ALWAYS making Christmas so special. I miss you Momma...I Love You so very much!

August 17, 2014

Judy F Alesso

You are missed so very much! With every butterfly I see, I know you are watching over me. I still have days when it just hits me that you are'nt here. It feels so new and still so unbelievable. Pop is 84 today. I cherish my time with him. Such a wonderful man your sweetheart is. I love you Momma. I've been so blessed...Thank you!

June 6, 2014

Judy Alesso

Happy Birthday Mom! Miss you so very much!

May 11, 2014

Judy F Alesso

Happy Mother's Day Momma! I'd give anything to be having lunch with you. You are missed and loved today and EVERY day!! I love you!

May 1, 2014

Judy F Alesso

"I miss you" does not begin to explain the void that I feel without you here Momma! Think of you every single day. Life is so different since you've been gone. I'm with Pop everyday and he misses you so much. We talk about you often and are so very grateful that we were blessed to have you! We are taking care of your sweetheart...don't worry. I love you Momma.

January 24, 2014

Judy F Alesso

Mom, one year ago today, many hearts were broken and many tears were shed when we had to let you go. January 24, 2013 changed our family forever. It still feels so new. Time has done nothing to ease the pain, hearts are still broken and tears still fall. Your physical absence is felt everyday as you have been, are and ALWAYS will be loved, remembered and missed. Till we meet again...
I love you and miss you beyond words.

January 13, 2014

Judy F Alesso

I reached for the phone this morning to call Mom and wish her and Pop a happy 63rd wedding anniversary. Took me a few seconds for the painful reality to set in. So, I quickly remembered Pop in the next room and went in and gave him a huge hug, kiss on the cheek and a heartfelt "good morning Pop, I LOVE YOU!". I can only imagine the pain he feels today (and everyday) but, the beautiful memories of their life together will surely bring some smiles. We (his children) will keep him busy today and embrace him with love. We are blessed...thank you Momma! All my love now and always...Happy Anniversary!

December 25, 2013

Judy Alesso

Merry Christmas Momma!! I cherish the many wonderful Christmases spent with Mom. Her presence is missed (everyday). Christmas will never be the same, I can only hope it gets easier? I love you forever and beyond!!

November 24, 2013

Judy Alesso

Momma left us 10 months ago today. Think about her every single day! Took Pop to the cemetary today, left flowers and many tears. Pop is the most amazing man and father! How blessed are my brothers and I. The holidays are fast approaching. Will never be the same without her. She loved the holidays! I will miss my christmas stocking from "santa". I should have payed closer attention to her when she baked. Her wonderful homemade pies and rolls will be missed! I still can't believe she's not here! I miss you so much mom...I love you forever and beyond!!

September 27, 2013

Della Witt

I think of Grandpa Ernie often and it makes me sad to know how much he must be hurting. He is the kindest person I have ever known. They loved each other deeply and have shared many, many wonderful memories together. I hope those memories comfort him because memories last forever.

August 18, 2013

Judy Alesso

Pop's 83rd birthday today (8-17). So strange not to see mom there. I know she was there watching over all of us and holding us tight. What a beautiful human she chose as her husband. Such an amazing couple they were/are. Pop misses her so much, it breaks my heart! I am so fortunate and so grateful to have witnessed such a true love. I witness it still every time pop talks about mom. The pain of her absence has'nt diminished and I don't really expect it to. I miss her every minute of every single day but, especially on special days like today. I love you momma and I thank you for blessing us with such a wonderful father! You picked a winner!!

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July 27, 2013

Keri Palmer Hovis

Dear Judy,

I was sorry to hear about your mom. I have fond memories of times spent on the softball field and camping with your parents. They were always so kind to me. My husband and I were in Morro Bay last weekend and thought of the time we stayed at the Baywood Park. What great childhood memories! I would love to talk with you some time. I have searched for you on facebook many times. Last year we thought of you again at the reunion. I would love to see you.

June 6, 2013

Judy Alesso

Mom would have been 80 years old today...Happy Birthday Momma!! I remember her 75th birthday party...surrounded by loving family and friends. She was always so happy when her family and friends were with her. I still can't believe she's not here!! So many times I've needed that hug, the one that could make anything better, the one that her arms were made for! I am so blessed to have been chosen by her (and God) to be her "baby girl"! Pop is so strong and comforting. He loves and misses mom so very much! What a beautiful example of a "true" love story! My brothers and I are so fortunate to witness and benefit from such unconditional and genuine love!! I see it in my Pop still! Tears still fall daily and, I don't think that will ever stop. I have no clue how to heal my broken heart. I hold the memories and love so tightly!! Today, I will celebrate mom's birthday. Today, I will celebrate how blessed I am to have her love with me always. Today, I will miss my Momma more than I can ever explain!! Today, I thank you God for bringing this beautiful and amazing woman into this world and blessing me with her love! I LOVE YOU MOMMA...forever and beyond!!

May 12, 2013

Judy Alesso

Happy Mother's Day! You were missed today (and everyday)...I love you momma!!

May 1, 2013

Judy Alesso

Today is the first birthday in 49 years that my momma did'nt sing happy birthday to me. Such a void that will never be filled. One in a million...that's my momma!! My life is blessed to have had her for nearly 49 years and, I hold all the memories and love deep in my heart. I miss my momma so very much!!!

April 25, 2013

Judy Alesso

Three months ago today since my precious momma went home to heaven. So many wonderful memories from such a beautiful person. I've heard the pain decreases in time. So far time heals nothing...my heart is still broken into a million pieces. Going through so many years of family pictures, every one that she is in has that sweet, genuine & contagious smile. What a beautiful life she lived. To say mom is missed is such an understatement! My world will never be the same. How could it be with such a huge part of me missing. You are in my heart always, I love you momma...forever and beyond!

April 1, 2013

Judy Alesso

Today is Easter. I remember and will miss the 48 years of Easter baskets filled with love that I received from my momma! The disbelief is still present and so are the tears. I see butterflies daily and know mom is with me. What a truly special woman...I love you and miss you more than I can possibly express!

March 7, 2013

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February 24, 2013

A month has passed. I miss my beautiful momma more than I can express!! I miss her beautiful smile, her loving hugs and kisses and most of all her sweet "I love you"s!! I know I will never be the same without her but, I am a better person because of her!! I miss the impromptu phone calls when one of us saw or heard something that reminded us of each other. I think my heart will always be broken from losing such a truly amazing mother and friend!! I love you mom! You are in my thoughts, my heart and my soul every second of everyday!

February 7, 2013

Judy Alesso

Two weeks today since God took you home, the most painful event I have ever known.
Your service was beautiful momma! So many people sharing so much love. I know how proud you were, watching pop, David and Mike being so strong. Not a day has gone by that I don't shed tears...I miss you so much!! I will never be the same!! How blessed I am to have you watching over me! I promise I will take care of pop, your "sweetheart"! He is so precious and he loves you so deeply! Our family and friends have been amazing. What a testament to what a beautiful person you were! My heart is broken momma but, I know your loving arms are always holding me! You are and have ALWAYS been my angel!! I love you, forever and beyond!

February 1, 2013

Elaine Hartwig

I was devastated when I got Judy's call to come be with my "Other Mother" I came right away and it was awesome to be by her side, swap stories and listen to her quick sense of humor. She, Pop ;[Mr Alesso (I could and never would be able to call you Ernie)] were always there for me. When I think of Mom, I see a smile...oh that sweet and wonderful smile....she will and always will be in my heart. So many stories...the people who were fortunate enough to know her will miss her tremendously! I just hope that someday I will be able to touch as many lives as her did! I'm VERY sorry for your loss; Mr Alesso (Pop), Judy, David and Mike....

January 31, 2013

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Judy FAY Alesso

Where do I begin to explain the tremendous loss to my family and the world! If I live to be half the beautiful, compassionate, generous and kind woman that my precious mother was...myself and the people I know and meet will be truly blessed! Mom had an infectious smile like no other. The kind of smile that would shed light on even the darkest of days! A hug from mom was so much more than just a hug. It was a refuge, a safe haven a place you never wanted to leave! I thank the good lord daily for blessing me with the truest example of what a mother should be. Actually, mom exceeded the largest of expectations. Thank you God for choosing mom for me and me for mom. And, thank you mom for insisting that you have a baby girl to go along with your two sons. I love you forever and beyond!!

January 30, 2013

Lora Roy

I have been so blessed to have known and loved Fay for 46 of my 49 years. If there ever was such a thing as a "second mom" she was mine. I will never forget this dear woman as long as I live. Ernie, you were always by her side and cared for me just as she did. David and Michael my two "big brothers," thank you for treating me like a spoiled little sister. And last but not least...One of the best daughters I have ever known, Judy always my sister. I am so sorry for your loss. You are an amazing family and you all have touched so many lives, especially mine.

January 30, 2013

Becky McCourt

Judy, I didn't know your Momma but I do know what it's like to lose a Mother. Just wanted to send my heartfelt sorrow and compassion to you and your family. I pray you find comfort from the love of family and friends, at this difficult time.

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Tammy Gomes

I will remember Fay most for her great smile and unfailing love. When people came to visit, she did not dwell on herself, but would always ask about them and their families. Always gracious. Always joking, and the stories.... loved the stories. Feel so blessed to have known her. So very sorry for your loss Ernie, David, Michael and Judy.

January 30, 2013

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January 29, 2013

Patt Freeman

Ernie & family, I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad, Boyce Combs, worked with you. I do remember Faye. May God be with you at this time.

January 29, 2013

Heather Davis-Griffis

Dear Ernie David Mike and Judy, I was so sorry to read of Fayes passing, I couldnt begin to name the countless hugs and I love yous' that she gave us kids. I would like to believe that she and mom are up in heaven swingin their legs off a cloud and chatting away. So many hugs and loves going out to you at this time, may Gods loving arms surround you and keep you safe and give you the strength to get thru these days ahead. With much love, Florance Heather (Davis) Griffis Pflugerville TX

January 29, 2013

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January 29, 2013

Tracy and Rhonda Langley

Our deepest sympathy to your family.

January 29, 2013

Matthew Scrivano

I will always remember what a great smile Mrs. Reynolds had on her face when she worked with my cub scouts back in the 70's. She would always greet me with a big smile and the biggest hugs I had ever had. Have not seen her in over 40 years, but can still see her smile, and hear her laugh.

January 29, 2013

Many years ago when I was a Girl Scout. I needed the cooking badge. Sorry Mom in advance,she thought I might make a mess. I was staying the night at my Aunt Fays. next day we were talking as she always made time for us. I said to her that I needed to bake a cake to complet the badge.She asked me if I knew how to read? Yes I replied. Alright then.get the cook book out and make your cake. I did, I do not recall how tasty it was but I made that cake. I thank the Lord for blessing me with a fun loving family. Until we meet again.

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