Mr. Jose Nano Aboy

1952 - 2015

Mr. Jose Nano Aboy obituary, 1952-2015, Escondido, CA

BORN

1952

DIED

2015

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Jose Aboy Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Mar. 31, 2015.

Jose Nano Aboy, known to his friends and family as “Joe,” was born to Agapito and Maura Aboy on May 19, 1952 in Manaoag, Pangasinan, Philippines, the first of six siblings. From the start, his mom marveled at his intelligence. Nevertheless, Joe got into his share of boyhood mischief with his brothers, Romeo, Jun, Nestor, and Rocky. Because his dad was usually away for work, it was his mom, Maura, who had to crack the whip at times to ensure Joe and his siblings, including his sister, Juliet, grew up to be respectable adults. School was where Joe was able to focus his energy and develop his mind further. He graduated high school from the Holy Rosary Academy in 1969. He then attended the University of Santo Tomas for electrical engineering. Joe then received the chance to join the prestigious Philippine Military Academy. However, wanting to seek out a way to provide better opportunities for his entire family, he instead joined the U.S. Navy on April 12, 1971 at age 18. Soon, he found himself in boot camp in San Diego, CA U.S.A. It was about this time that Joe met the one and only love of his life, Cristina “Pinkie” Gruenberg. During their courtship was when he received Jesus Christ as his personal Savior. Joe and Pinkie married on June 5, 1973. They welcomed a son, Joseph, and daughter, Aileen, into their world while stationed in Los Angeles, CA. These events were major blessings in his life. In 1978, Joe was able to see one of his dreams become reality when he petitioned for his parents to come join him in the U.S. while stationed in Norfolk, VA. In 1982 while stationed in Pensacola, FL, he was able to bring the rest of his family, 5 siblings, over. Having his entire family now in the U.S. marked the beginning of the greater opportunities that he always wanted, and he was even instrumental in leading his family in the knowledge of Jesus as their Savior. Joe was so thankful to God in seeing this come to fruition.



During this time, Joe was a naval exam writer and quickly got commissioned as a Chief Warrant Officer. Having reported to several different naval vessels in his career, Joe was able to visit hundreds of cities worldwide. He genuinely loved what he did as a naval officer and was able to excel in his roles and responsibilities. Some of Joe’s peers have referred to him as being “A walking encyclopedia,” and “Smartest person I know.” Others have said “This guy knows everything,” and that they “Never won an [intellectual] bet against him.” His work ethic was unparalleled, always ready and willing to do the job and get it done right. At home, his wife and kids knew what a dedicated, dependable, and loving husband and father God blessed them with. In 1984, they were transferred back to San Diego. Having been all over the world, Joe often mentioned that San Diego is the best place to live on earth.



Always studious and desiring to exercise his mind, Joe earned his B.S. in Computer Science in 1989. Joe’s next endeavor was on the Propulsion Examining Board, where he inspected ships and deemed whether or not they were fit for deployment. It was a formidable site for crew members to see Joe board a ship due to the reputation he had developed. The years flew by and Joe’s kids eventually married, thus commencing the blessings of grandkids. He proudly welcomed his first granddaughter, Caden, in 2001. After completing 30 years of active duty service, Joe retired in a remarkable ceremony in April 2001. But after only a short retirement, Joe was back at work under Navy contract at Life Cycle Engineering, resuming his troubleshooting abilities on naval ships. More grandkids were born: EJ in 2002, Penelope in 2004, and then Leilani in 2007. The smile on his face, whenever he spent time with his precious grandkids, displayed the bounty of his blessings! The separation was tough when Joe’s career took him to Yokosuka, Japan for a federal position with the Japan Regional Maintenance Center in 2009. Joe was able to visit home frequently and proudly welcomed two more granddaughters, Ariza in 2009, and Lauralynn in 2012. Spending time with family, including his siblings and their families, cousins, and co-workers, was a tremendous joy in Joe’s life. He never hesitated to invite people to eat out with him or host a gathering. In 2012, distinguished as an expert in his field, Joe transferred to San Diego to be home again and to work with the Southwest Regional Maintenance Center.



It was during his career at SWRMC that Joe’s health took an unexpected turn. On Christmas Eve 2014, it was discovered that he had a large, malignant tumor in his chest. Aggressive efforts were made to combat the cancer, but ultimately, it was best that Joe return home to enjoy the time he had left, spending it with family. That is what he did, though he never lost faith in the knowledge that if it were God’s will, he could still be healed. For the last few weeks of his life on this earth, Joe and his family experienced an outpouring of God’s love in a way that few ever get to witness. The peace that the Lord gave was inexplicable, and the time together was so tender and precious. Even the new people Joe came in contact with, whether his doctors, nurses, or hospital staff were moved by his kindness, concern, and faith, especially in that he testified that he was “ready to meet his Savior Jesus Christ.” What a great God we serve! Finally, surrounded by his wife, siblings, kids, grandkids, and many other loving family, Joe peacefully took his last breath on this earth and his first in heaven on March 29, 2015.



For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. Romans 8:18



Though the separation is temporary, the sadness is great, for we will miss Joe tremendously. Aside from his intelligence and love for continued learning, God gifted Joe with loving kindness, genuineness, and above all, generosity. His steadfast faith in Jesus was evident in his life, especially in his final days. We thank the Lord for having him in our lives. God used his servant Joe to enable us to draw nearer to our Creator God.





Until the Great Day we meet again…



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November 18, 2015

I miss you, my loving husband, Joe:
The moment that you left me, my heart was split in two: one side was filled with memories; the other side died with you.
I often lay awake at night when the world is fast asleep; and take a walk down memory lane with tears upon my cheek. Remembering you is easy, I do it everyday; but missing you is a heartache that never goes away.
I hold you tightly within my heart and there you will remain; you see, life has gone on without you, but will never be the same. (copied)
Your loving wife,
Pinkie

August 19, 2015

Ben Go, one of Joe's best friends wrote:
"When I heard the news from Roli, it really hit me pretty hard. I just never expected it to happen so quickly. Knowing Joe, I was expecting that he would put up a good, long fight and eventually beat it. Even now, I still find it hard to accept that he is gone from our lives. Joe and I never really got to spend a lot of time together especially since we moved to Colorado but even the few times that we saw each other over the years and the phone conversations we'd have every now and then proved the friendship that we had will last. Joe and I shared a common bond through our experiences in life and passion for shooting. I always enjoyed those times that we would call each other and the conversations we had would always inevitably end up gravitating towards guns and shooting. I really miss Joe. He was a good person and a great friend. In all of the 45 years that I've known Joe, I've always seen him proved that he's a good husband, a loving father and a sincere friend to us all. There are a lot of things and words that I can use to describe Joe but there is not one word that I could think of that will describe him in a negative way. I know that he made quite an impression as a good person to everyone that he knew and having all those people attend his funeral is a great testament to his great character and personality."

Ben Go, Colorado

June 12, 2015

Rachel Aboy

When I look back at Uncle Joe's life, I can say I have not known a more generous man. He has sacrificed and given a lot for our family. Practically every holiday of my childhood as well as adult life has been spent with our family at Uncle Joe and Auntie Pinkie's house. He was the kind of man who said, "Rachel, if you have something, share it with other people." As it says in the Bible, "it is more blessed to give than receive." Uncle Joe loved to see his family happy and to eat with them. There have been countless times that he's kindly invited us to eat. So, when he got sick, it was devastating to see him lose his appetite and not be able to walk around, or go to work, which he enjoyed doing. Uncle Joe liked to help people and bring them together. He was very knowledgeable and had answers for everything that you asked. We really love and miss Uncle Joe so much and he has made a great impact in our lives, but we shouldn't lose heart. Uncle Joe had told me that he was the first of the Aboy family to become a Christian, before Grandma, or his brothers, and this was because he married Auntie Pinkie, and she is Christian. So we can take comfort as said in the Bible "God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.; "But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus."


-Rachel - niece

May 5, 2015

Leilani Aboy

My Umpa
by: Leilani Aboy, 7 year old grand daughter
Umpa was very loving, caring, giving and always thought of us before himself.
With Umpa, everyday felt like it was my Birthday even though it was not. He would always give us money to buy clothes, toys and gifts. Sometimes when we visit Umpa he would teach us cool, new and awesome stuff. Before Umpa went to Heaven, he told us three things: to Love God and follow Jesus with all our hearts, obey mommy and daddy, and do our best in school to get good grades. I will make sure to remind myself and my sisters of this promise. And Umpa was the best Umpa in the history of all Umpas.

Posted by Leilani Aboy

May 3, 2015

Caden Milan

My Letter to Umpa:
Dear Umpa,
I miss you so much. I miss your smile, your laugh, and your corny yet funny jokes. I'm gonna miss you imitating Pepee when she gets mad and the way you did your British accent, which really wasn't an accent at all. I miss hugging you and spending time with you. You were so generous, smart, and humble. In this past year, I was able to get a lot closer to you and I'm very grateful for that. I'm so glad we got to go on roller coasters together at Disney World. Although I am very sad you're gone, I have a peace and an assurance that you are with Jesus now. You have taught me some valuable life lessons that I will never forget. Thank you for all you've done for me. And thank you for teaching me so much - not only academically, but spiritually, too. You were an amazing "umpa" to me and my cousins, and I look forward to seeing you someday in Heaven. I love you so much, and you will be dearly missed.
Love always,
Caden
PS: Thank you so much for giving me your dimples!

May 3, 2015

Romeo Aboy

My name is Romeo, one of Joe's brother, the third of six siblings starting from brother Joe. My Manong Boy was a kind, caring and compassionate person. He carried these characteristics throughout his life. I noticed his care and concern for us at an early age. Having been raised from a poor family, we didn't have the privilege to have even simple basic needs a kid should have. When we were small, my brother Joe tried as much as he could to bring something home from school from the few cents recess money my mom gave him. One day, he brought home from school a piece of White Rabbit candy and cut it in pieces so each sibling can taste what a White Rabbit candy is.
I always looked up to my brother Joe. He has always been a big brother to us. I remember our excitement when we found out that he was accepted to join the U.S. Navy. That was a big deal for my parents and for us siblings. His joining the U.S. Navy in the Philippines made a way for my parents and for us siblings to come to America.
Even when we were already here in America, married, and living separate lives, he never stopped showing his concern for us. He always called us especially on Thanksgiving, Christmas and New years to greet us making sure we are doing okay. He became our father figure once our parents passed away and continued to think of us even through his last days with us. He loved and enjoyed all the family get-together especially during the holidays. We would enjoy eating, talking to each other, and sharing stories and memories.
Manong Boy was a good and loving brother to us; a good and loving husband to Ate Pinky; a good and loving dad to his son Joseph and daughter Aileen and their spouses; and even more a loving Grandpa to his six grandchildren.
Brother Joe accomplished a lot of good things in his life. He was very successful in his Naval career and enjoyed his life. But of all the things he did in his life, the most important one was, when he put his faith and trusted in Jesus Christ as his Lord and personal savior.
I feel like my brother's life with us was cut too short. Though we all wanted him here with us, the Lord God has a better plan for him. I know for sure even though he is not with us anymore, he is in heaven with the Lord.
How did l know that? The word of God in the bible says in 1st John, Chapter 5:11-13, 11And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his son. 12He that hath the son hath life; and he that hath not the son of God hath not life. 13These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the son of God. I thank the Lord for everything, His love, mercy and grace, and for my Manong Boy. We love you and we will miss you, Manong Boy.

April 23, 2015

EJ Milan

Bible reading for "Umpa" from Grandson EJ:

"As for me, I will always have hope; I will praise you more and more. My mouth will tell of your righteous deeds, of your saving acts all day long though I know not how to relate them all. I will come and proclaim your mighty acts, Sovereign Lord; I will proclaim your righteous deeds, yours alone. Since my youth, God, you have taught me, and to this day I declare your marvelous deeds. Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, my God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your mighty acts to all who are to come. Your righteousness, God, reaches to the heavens, you who have done great things. Who is like you, God? Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up. You will increase my honor and comfort me once more." (Psalm 71:14-21 NIV)

April 18, 2015

Fe Advincula

I am honored today to pay tribute to a distinguished Navel Officer and exceptional man. Exceptional because he excelled in every aspect of his life.
As a family man, his first love is his wife and family. He was a role model for his children and had high expectations of them. He took pride in their accomplishments. In return, he was dearly loved and respected.
He spent most of his years in the Navy serving our country. He loved what he did and with unsurpassed diligence he excelled in every task.
I have spent time with him in serious conversations on various topics. I listened to him with awe and admiration. He is a man of great wisdom, yet humble, kind and compassionate.
His values showed in his actions. He has touched and warmed the hearts of family and friends. In his own ways he took opportunities to lead people to the Lord.
Til the very end he kept his faith and trust in the Lord.
I take comfort knowing that Joe is now with the Lord. He is in peace with his Savior. No more pain. Someday I shall see him again.
I will always remember him as Joe Aboy, the man that is second to NONE.
With love & respect, Fe

April 15, 2015

Cezar Navarro

I had the privilege of knowing Joe for the last 14 years. While we were friends for many years, it didn't take very long for me to figure out what a kind man Joe was.
He was brilliant, but carried that gift with true humility.
He always pointed out the good in every situation, regardless of how difficult the circumstances were.
He was a leader, one that would take on work and carry out tasks that weren't even his responsibility
all out of the goodness of his heart.
He was a teacher. A mentor. A brother. Someone who people naturally gravitated toward.
Charismatic, a man who knew just the right thing to say, and picked the perfect time to say it.
He spoke life into other people out his faith and wisdom.
Joe was funny too. I'd always look forward to laughing with him at the beginning of a workday. He just had a way of connecting people and making the best out of the simplest situations.
I remember one time, Rey Javier, Joe and I with the all the members of PSART Team, we traveled to Japan to run tests, and trainings on a ship. We were tired after working for several hours and decided to go straight to the CPO Mess Hall for dinner. It was a long day of work. The NBA Finals were on, and even though there was an exciting sports event being shown on the TV, we sat quietly in that cold mess hall. We were so tired that we didn't even care about a championship game that was on only once a year.
Joe could sense how tired we were.
Rey!, he said. Who do you want to win? Which team are you going for?
Rey told Joe the team he was rooting for.
And Joe, just to make things exciting and lift our spirits a bit, said, OK, good. I'll bet you something that the other team will win.
This entire time, I was thinking Joe, you don't even really watch basketball. You don't know the names of most of the players on the team you're betting on.
The game got exciting, we laughed, we were at the edge of our seats in anticipation- as they went back and forth. At the end of the game, Joe ended up winning the bet.
Joe turned that tired and mediocre moment to something fun and joyful.
This was the kind of man Joe was.
Attentive to his surroundings, always looking for an opportunity to help and always went the distance to encourage others and bring joy. He's done this for me time and time again. I will never forget the last time I would shake his hand -- neither one of us knew it would be the last time we'd shake hands --
and he said, Cezar, you are truly a different kind of a friend.
Few words, with a firm grip
full of encouragement.
He spoke life into me.
He was a co-worker, turned friend, and brother until the end.
I am honored to say that Joe was my brother. And I with everybody in C262 will truly miss him.

April 2, 2015

Gordon Smock

Easter offers hope to those who grieve.

April 2, 2015

Mark Petersen-Overton

Chief Warrant Officer Jose Aboy was my dear friend and shipmate and one of the greatest Naval Officers I have ever known. He was a walking electrical/electronic/mechanical marine gas turbine expert. If electrons flowed through something, Joe could fix it. He was a national treasure for the entire Pacific fleet from the time I met him in 1982 right up until his sad passing last Sunday. Perhaps this has now changed, but I was told that he was the only Chief Warrant Officer ever invited to be a member of the Propulsion Examining Board (PEB). Joe was not only an expert at so many things, he was also the most charitable and gracious human beings I've ever known and loved. One time when he was working for Life Cycle Engineering and the San Diego office was having some work challenges and his good friend and shipmate, Celso Jimenez' job may have been at risk. I'll never forget what Joe said to me: Mark, I want you to lay me offinstead of Celso. Of course, my reply was that we would work through the problem and not lay anyone off. That was the kind of man, friend, and shipmate Joe was his entire life: selfless and caring. I will miss him intensely and he will be forever in my heart as one of the finest people I had the honor to call my friend. My love and prayers to his family and friends who are also hurting from Joe's passing. Captain Mark D. Petersen-Overton, USN (ret)

April 1, 2015

May prayers strengthen you and memories comfort you. Our Lord Jesus Christ and his Father who loves us will comfort your heart and "make you firm". (2 Thessalonians 2:16,17)

March 31, 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. May the God of comfort be with you during this sorrowful time.

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