Mariani Mutidjo Obituary
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Mrs. Mariani Tjahjadi Mutidjo

December 1, 1946 - October 21, 2016
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I met my wife Mariani ,Tjien Mey, or simply May, some 46 years ago when both of us worked in 2 different private banks in Jakarta Indonesia. She was a non-practicing Buddhist and I was a non-practicing Catholic.; but out of love for each other she was willing to convert to Catholicism and since then I became more frequent in my church attendance. Finally we were married in a Catholic church, 42 years ago. Three years after our marriage and having the first baby, I got a job in Kingston, Jamaica. Moving to Jamaica was not easy. We had to leave our parents, family members, and friends, facing all kinds of challenger, such as cultural, language, and life style. However, by the grace of God and the supports from families and friends, especially members of the POP community, we managed to rise up above the obstacles. We spent more than 30 years in Jamaica, and were blessed with 3 additional children. We moved Tampa almost a decade ago, transferred to the POP Tampa. We enjoyed our brand new house and enjoyed our life together in the empty nest. Together we did many activities, including travel, and visiting children and grand children; exercised at the gym- joining different group classes. My dear wife was not only a wonderful wife and mother but she was a meticulous housekeeper and homemaker. She cooked every day and kept the house in order. She was faithful in her church attendance. She knew by heart the different times of mass schedules on Sat and Sunday. We moved to...
I met my wife Mariani ,Tjien Mey, or simply May, some 46 years ago when both of us worked in 2 different private banks in Jakarta Indonesia. She was a non-practicing Buddhist and I was a non-practicing Catholic.; but out of love for each other she was willing to convert to Catholicism and since then I became more frequent in my church attendance. Finally we were married in a Catholic church, 42 years ago.

Three years after our marriage and having the first baby, I got a job in Kingston, Jamaica. Moving to Jamaica was not easy. We had to leave our parents, family members, and friends, facing all kinds of challenger, such as cultural, language, and life style. However, by the grace of God and the supports from families and friends, especially members of the POP community, we managed to rise up above the obstacles. We spent more than 30 years in Jamaica, and were blessed with 3 additional children.

We moved Tampa almost a decade ago, transferred to the POP Tampa. We enjoyed our brand new house and enjoyed our life together in the empty nest. Together we did many activities, including travel, and visiting children and grand children; exercised at the gym- joining different group classes.

My dear wife was not only a wonderful wife and mother but she was a meticulous housekeeper and homemaker. She cooked every day and kept the house in order. She was faithful in her church attendance. She knew by heart the different times of mass schedules on Sat and Sunday. We moved to this parish 3 years ago, and together we volunteered at the SVDP. She was happy to do whatever task allotted her. She also lived growing and caring for flowers, especially orchids. Her back yard is like a mini tropical botanical garden. She was a self-disciplined woman. She ate well balanced diet; exercised 1 hour every single day.

She was a very resourceful woman too ; good in budgeting and savings. She packed children' lunch every day and she told the children that we were doing it in order to save money for their college education.

I am in deep sorrow now for my beloved wife but the burden has been lessened by the many kindness, supports and prayers shown to me and my family. My children and I tried to give her the best funeral she deserved. My house is covered with cards and letters extending love and sympathy. My FaceBook page and WhatsApp were flooded with similar messages from all over the world: Australia, Canada, France, Indonesia, Jamaica, and Malaysia.

By the generosity of friends, and family members, daily masses in 6 different churches are being offered for the repose of May's soul.

I want you all to know how grateful I am for all you have said or done. The tribute you paid myself and my family touched us deeply. I fear I cannot thank all of you personally but be assured your kindness will never be forgotten.

She is now with the Lord, in His heavenly Kingdom, surrounded by the angels, saints, the martyrs, and the chosen ones.
In my grief, one of the comforting words I found was from Job 1:21 “Naked I came forth from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I go back there. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD!”

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Mammy would often tell us, her children, that everything she did was for us. We didn’t quite understand, as kids, but we did as as we grew up, and even more now as we reflect on and cherish our memories of her.

One of the ways Mammy expressed her love to us was through service. She was the consummate homemaker. She cooked everyday, baked regularly (including all our birthday cakes, from scratch), gardened, tidied our home, sewed her own clothes and mended ours, made us lunch for school, picked us up at the end of school, the list goes on and on. She was tireless in serving us, without complaining, and without nearly the amount of gratitude she deserved from us. Words of affection were not Mammy’s strong suit, neither were hugs and kisses. But we knew she loved us by her actions.

Mammy made a lot of sacrifices for us. One considerable sacrifice was leaving the familiarity of home, her loved ones and her culture, to move to Jamaica, on the other side of the world. I had the privilege of traveling to Indonesia with her as a young adult. When we were at a family get together she was so animated, so talkative, so alive. It was good to see her like this. This was a side of her I didn’t see often.

Mammy’s deepest desires were to see each of us get a good education and get married to good people. Grandchildren were a bonus.

When each grandchild was born, Mammy would make it a point to travel and spend time with each child. She loved babies, and wouldn’t hold back in showering her grandchildren with affection.

Without a doubt, we are our mother’s children. We are like her in so many ways. I look at Esti and I see Mammy’s ability to endure through hardships and keep pressing forward to do what needs to be done. Esti’s also carried on Mammy’s baking and Asian cooking skills.

In Marcus, I see Mammy’s quiet soul and generous spirit. Mammy would always remember to gift those she loved. And when we were older, she would discreetly slip us an envelope with money, knowing it would help us out.

Willie has Mammy’s servant’s heart. Like her, he’s a doer, and shows his love by actions. Mammy was also good with her hands, fixing things herself, and taking on home projects. When we came back to the house from the hospital after Mammy had passed, Willie didn’t think twice about fixing the showerhead and toilet in the bathroom.

In myself, I carry Mammy’s faithfulness. She was serious about her responsibilities and commitments. If she said she’d do something, she did it, and did it to the best of her abilities.

We’re glad Mammy could enjoy life a bit more in the later years of her life. A few days ago we watched some videos Marcus took when he and Nanou took Mammy golfing last year. It was her first time at a golf course, though she had gone to the driving range a few times before. Perhaps by rank of experience she felt she was the expert in the group, and proceeded to verbally instruct Nanou on how to hit the ball. When words weren’t enough, she stepped in front of Nanou, showing her how she should stand, then with a shoveling action showed Nanou how to swing the club. We had a good laugh watching that video over and over. But more than that, we were heartened to see her all smiles, clearly having a good time.

We are so sad that Mammy won't see her 70th birthday on December 1. We wish she could meet Marcus and Nanou’s daughter who is due in February. She was looking forward to that trip to France to meet her sixth grandchild. We had hoped Mammy could fulfill her desire to witness at least one of her granddaughters getting married.

But we are happy that we were all here in 2014 to commemorate her 40th wedding anniversary. We thank God we didn’t wait for their 50th anniversary to celebrate. And we’re happy Mammy was able to see each of us get married. Marcus was the last to get married, almost two years ago, and his wedding was extra special because Mammy was able to have her younger sister, Aunty Itje, come to America for the first time to attend the event.

The last days with Mammy in the ICU were the toughest days of our lives. We are grateful we could all be there. I know she was happy to have us by her side.

Mammy, we love and miss you. We’re happy you are now with the Lord, enjoying the eternal banquet. We’ll take care of Papa. And we will do our best to live our lives in a way that honors you.

"Francis, we have been praying for you every day after hearing if May's sudden passing. We are very sorry for your loss and the loss to all of POP. Imagine,..." Francie & Jim Guilday (Palm Harbor, FL)

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