Phillip Curtis McKee III

1972 - 2013

Phillip Curtis McKee III obituary, 1972-2013, Fairfax, VA

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Phillip McKee Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jun. 4, 2013.

Phillip Curtis McKee III
May 12, 1972 –May 31, 2013

On May 31, 2013, Phillip succumbed to the injuries he received as a firefighter on the third arriving engine company from Arlington County Fire Department, Engine 103, while responding to the terroristic attack on 9-11 at the Pentagon.

Phillip was born in Portsmouth, Virginia on May 12, 1972. He was preceded in death by his mother, Cynthia Ruiz; grandfathers, Steve Martinez Sr. and Phillip Curtis McKee Sr.

He is survived by his husband, Nopadon McKee; son, Nathaniel McKee; his service animal "Cloe," his father, Phillip Curtis McKee Jr (Rebecca); grandmother, Esther O. Martinez, San Antonio, Texas; and grandmother Virginia McKee, Chesapeake, Va. and brother-in-law, Noparat (Sandra) Woods, Dallas, Texas.

Phillip is also survived and very loved by his aunts and uncles, Sandra Martinez, Yvonne Martinez Sotelo (Juan), Robert O. Ruiz, Steve Martinez (Eustolia) and Izaak Martinez from San Antonio Texas.

He is also survived by aunts, Rebecca McKee Wilhite, Patricia McKee Smith, and uncles, Steve McKee and Richard McKee from Virginia. There are numerous cousins, nieces, nephews, and friends also grieving his loss.

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June 30, 2014

Phillip McKee Jr.

A year has passed and my heart aches more than I ever thought possible. Watching you grow into such a handsome, accomplished, and incredibly intellegent man gave us both such joy. Words could never express the pride and love your mother and I had for you. You left too soon, but I know you are in the arms of the Lord and I look forward to the day we meet again in Heaven.

I would like to thank everyone who shared in Phillip's life. He made life special for all of us.

December 16, 2013

Sandra Martinez

Phillip, Christmas time will never be the same without you. How I miss you. I don't have the words to express the deep sorrow your abscence has left in my heart. I love you and miss you so very much. Merry Christmas and may you be celebrating with the angels in heaven. I know you have been reunited with your mom and grandpa. Love you, Aunt Sandra

September 10, 2013

Aunt Sandra Martinez

Phillip, my Hero. It's been three months and 11 days you left us. Each 9-11 you are ever in my thoughts and hearts. I pray you have found peace and comfort. My beautiful nephew I love you and always will.

September 6, 2013

Marge Bell

Nope, my life in Maryland wouldn't have been nearly as exciting, interesting, or laugh-filled without you guys and to hear that Phil passed away is a big blow. I treasure the memories of our times together, whether hanging out at your house with Chloe, waiting for something to happen at the PG firehouse, or best of all, the drive to West Virginia for whitewater rafting. Phil was a very very special human being and the world is a better place for having him around as long as it did.

June 18, 2013

John Brunner

The day that Phil and Nop moved into University Park in 1999 they began volunteering in community activities and quickly became an integral part of the fabric of our town. In 2000, there were two vacancies on the Town Board of Elections, and as Mayor (2000-2006), I had the pleasure of appointing both Phil and Nope to fill those positions. And right away, as you might expect, Phil started to use his skills to begin reorganizing and automating the records. And then in 2003, they decided to move to northern Virginia which was closer to their work which was a big loss to our small suburban Maryland community.

My deepest sympathy goes out to the McKee family and to Nope.

June 13, 2013

Holly Siskovic now Ballew

I will always remember our high school years with joy! Nobody could sing, tell a joke, or make me feel happy like Phillip.

June 11, 2013

Dear Nopadon and Phillip's family, I was so sad to hear this news today. Phil was a dear friend to me in college, and I have been so sorry we had fallen out of touch after a couple moves on my end. He and I worked at the Chaplain's office together at Yale, and he always had the biggest smile on his face. And we suffered through German together... Nopadon, I remember his excitement and glee when he met you, and a lovely note you sent us once. Please know you are all in our thoughts and have our deepest condolences. We will all miss Phillip. -Marci McCoy and Amir Roth, Kensington, MD

June 11, 2013

Stephanie

Phil was a true individual who wasn't afraid to follow his dreams, wherever they took him. Nopadon, my thoughts are with you.

June 11, 2013

Christopher Alvarado

From the moment we met in high school, I knew that Phillip was one of the most mentally and spiritually courageous people I have ever met. He was genuine and proud to be himself. I am proud to have known him, and am a better man because of Phillip. Thank you, friend, and Godspeed.

June 10, 2013

Matthew Stewart

Our hearts go out to you at this time and in the days ahead.

June 10, 2013

Patrick McArron

Dear Nopadon and family, please accept my sincerest condolences over the loss of such a fine young man. I was so touched by his story that I created a Memorial Page for him in his honor on facebook and it is dedicated to you and the family. https://www.facebook.com/PhillipCurtisMckeeMemorial

June 10, 2013

Karl Pretsch

Phillip,
Teacher,mentor,friend. You were one of the funniest, kindest, and most giving persons I have ever known. You will be missed by all. My condolences to Nopidan, Nate, and the rest of your Family.
Be at Peace my friend.

June 9, 2013

Sandra Martinez

Phillip,

How do I say good-bye? Forty-one (41) short years, and now you are gone.

My beautiful nephew, I miss you so much already. I miss your wit, humor, hugs, gentleness, generosity and beautiful smile. Your death has taken a piece of my heart with you. We had so many wonderful times together. You always made me laugh no matter my fate.

Seems like just yesterday I was reading you fairy tales goodnight and rocking you to sleep. Although, I usually fell asleep first and could hear you saying, "Read to me, read to me". Yes, you loved to read. And then when you turned three...ha

Keystone School, Health Careers HS, Yale, Harvard, Princeton and now Heaven. You always did like the better things life had to offer.

I love you and know you are now at peace forever. You did so many great things, touched so many lives, helped so many in need and at the end of the day you were content in just being Phillip. Never wanted to draw attention to yourself. NOT! Just joking.

You are now surrounded by family and friends in Heaven. I'm sure God will put you to work right away, if He hasn't already!

As you watch over us each day, know that we are all okay and miss you dearly. You will never be forgotten.

I love you my precious Pito.
Aunt Sandra

June 9, 2013

Reedy family

We knew Phil as a great neighbor and a man of many gifts. He was a great host, uniquely fascinating, witty, warm and generous. Sincere condolences to his family and friends.

June 9, 2013

Tony and Donna Tisdale

Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you. Our sincerest condolences to you and your families.

June 9, 2013

Joe Marion

Phillip, I am saddened to hear that you have left us. You will always be loved and missed. I guess I was one of the lucky individuals to be apart of your life. When I knew you, you had such a zest for life. You excelled in everything that you did. You took a stained glass class and turned it into a career after firefighting. You really put your mind to it and that passion raged like a brush fire that we all should have in life. I am still in disbelief of your departure from us, but I guess God called you home. The only regret I have is the fact that I never got an opportunity to say goodbye. I will forever miss you and I love you.

June 8, 2013

Maria Elena Lozano

Dearest Phillip, Hna. Martinez, Robert, Sandra, Yvonne and Steve and other family members. I am so sorry about your loss, I am praying God's comfort over your lives and strength. God Bless all of you in this time of sorrow. Love you all.

June 8, 2013

Josie & Joe Marion

Our son introduced my husband and I to Phillip and Nopadon. We found Phillip and Nopadon to be a lovely and warm couple.

June 8, 2013

Our son introduced my husband and I to Phillip and Nopadon. We found Phillip and Nopadon to be a lovely and warm couple.

June 8, 2013

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June 7, 2013

Dan Rosman

I will never forget our adventures both in college and afterwards. Our community will be forever indebted to you for your selflessness and generosity. It is truly an honor to have known a true hero and to count you as my friend.

June 7, 2013

Rudy Martinez

Phillipito, you will be missed fror your sense of humor ,your smile and your intellect,we lovrd you my dear nephew.Reast in peace.Uncle Rudy and John.Condolences to Nopadon and the Martinez familly.GOD bless all of you.

June 7, 2013

William Bermingham

I will always cherish the memories of Phillip's warm smile, sense of humor, genorosity, and caring soul. I am deeply saddened by Phillips passing and will always carry the sound advice he offered me in a time of much needed direction. With affection and my deepest condolences you are in my prayers and my thoughts.

Love,
Bill

June 7, 2013

George

Phil, your humor and your freindship will be carried with me always.

My thoughts are with your family, and the love they share. I will miss you my friend.

June 7, 2013

Kimberly Rose

Phillip, your beautiful smile and warm loving presence will be missed. May you rest in peace my friend.

June 6, 2013

Mary Lopez

Phillip you will be truly missed you are in good hands now and complete. My deepest sympathy to all his family and friends that hold him close to their hearts.

Sincerely Aunt Mary Martinez Lopez

June 6, 2013

Jason Williams

Phillip... It has been a privilege to have you as a friend. We will all miss you.

June 6, 2013

Cheri Worthington

Phillip, you were always someone I considered a best friend. I have always told my kids of our adventures in Physics class and outside of school. I'm so grateful to have reconnected with you years ago and to know what a true gentleman you became. I will never forget you and the ways you touched my life.

June 6, 2013

Alma Villarreal

Phil, Althought it is difficult today to see beyond the pain and sorrow, may looking back in memory help comfort you in the days to come. Always remember when someone you love becomes a memory, don't ever forget that memory becomes a treasure. My condolences to the McKee Family.

June 6, 2013

Suzy Daniels

With heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your son. My condolences to the McKee Family.

June 6, 2013

Phil - I am so sad for you. With heartfelt sympathy, Chuck Brower

June 6, 2013

Mathew Beredo

I was very sad to hear the news of Phil's passing. He was a person who I think represented what I loved most about my college days: unusual, intelligent, lively, and personally and intellectually daring in many ways that I admired and continue to admire. He took the political writings of Thomas Aquinas very seriously, but himself not at all--and he made the people around him happier. The world is diminished without him in it.

June 6, 2013

Helen Horn Mihelarakis

I was so saddened to hear of Phillip's passing; such a kind person. My heart goes out to Nopadon and their family.

June 6, 2013

Gloria Silvestro

Dear Phil and Family, My deepest sympathy to you and your family. May God grant you comfort and peace. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

June 6, 2013

Mark and I send our deepest sympathies to Nope and the Phillip's other family and friends. We will always remember Phil as a wonderful neighbor and a generous person.

June 6, 2013

Susan Dixon

Words seem inadequate to express the sadness I feel for you and your family. Know I am here to support you in your grieving process - with sincere sympathy

June 6, 2013

Rachel González

There are no words to express my deepest sympathy. Phillip, I know how proud you were of your son. Our prayers are with you and your family.

June 6, 2013

Keith Truelove

It saddens me that Phil has left my life so suddenly. Although it took awhile to really develop our friendship when we were thrown together as freshman roommates, Phil became one of my closest friends and the person I always could depend upon to listen and provide advice on my most personal problem... I regret that the frequency of contact dropped off after I moved overseas, and it pains me that we never will have the chance to make it back. But my memories are the best one could hope for - filled with love, laughs, life-changing moments (our respective weddings really stand out!). I always will carry a part of him in me, thanks to everything Phil gave of himself over the years.

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June 6, 2013

Marchia Williams

Words cannot express my deepest sympathy to you and your family. I pray Our Lord gives you the peace that surpasses all understanding and you remember the blessed time you had with one another. And this too shall pass... never forgotten and always adored. God bless you Phil and your family.

June 6, 2013

Diana Allen,

Phillip Jr. & family, I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family during this difficult time. God Bless.

June 6, 2013

G. Mariani

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this trying moment. He is now in the company of The Lord, with whom we will all re-unite. My deepest condolences.

G. Mariani

June 6, 2013

Brenda Zertuche

May his rest in peace, GOD bless the entire family during this difficult time.

June 5, 2013

Steve Martibez III

I can't believe I am doing this. Everything happens for a reason. You are missed by so many. You had a great life with a great family who will remember you forever. The impact you leave was surely felt while you were with us. Bye primo.

June 5, 2013

Stephanie Alvarado

You are a true hero. Thank you for your unselfish bravery. You will be missed my friend. Rest in peace

June 5, 2013

Kenneth Cheng

Phil, I had known you since we began college together and I will always remember the incredibly fun times we had. You have been such a fun loving, caring guy and I'm grateful that I had the opportunity to meet you and be your friend. You will be sorely missed by so many.

June 5, 2013

Tommy Beacham

Wow...received a call from Yvonne about the passing of Phillip...it really took the breath out of me...so sad to die so young...Phillip was a very accomplished/talented young man, and I know he will be missed by his partner Nopadon and his family and friends...such a shock. My prayers are with all the family at this time of sorrow.

June 5, 2013

Joseph Cascioli

May your soul and all the souls of the faithful departed rest in peace. Amen

Joe Cascioli

June 5, 2013

Ron Grob

I will forever miss you Philip. I hope you are at peace and free of pain.

June 5, 2013

Traugott Lawler

I was pretty close to Phil when he was a member of Ezra Stiles College at Yale and I was master of the college. We had a bond in our Catholicism, and he talked to me about his desire to become a priest. I actually thought he had entered the seminary, so I was surprised at the time of 9/11 to hear that he was a fireman in Washington--but it made me proud to learn that he had played a hero's role in the Pentagon disaster. It was very good to see him at his 15th Yale reunion in 2009, crippled from the Pentagon injury but cheerful as ever. He proudly introduced me to his partner Nope. I will always remember him as thoughtful, gentle, and kind. And as a hero.

June 5, 2013

Keith Vavra

Phil – I hope you know what an impact you had on so many people's life. I will cherish the good times and laughs, I pray that you are resting in peace and know that you are missed by many. I am blessed to have had the opportunity to get to know you, and Nop, may God bless you. Much love.

June 5, 2013

Randy Nichols

Phillip,
I was honored to be your friend; you brought a passion and a dedication to everything that drew you, and I've always admired that. Thank you for all the memories. You'll be missed but never forgotten.

June 5, 2013

Ruben Sanchez

Phillip, it was an honor having known you during our high school years. Many times I was surpriseed on your dedication to school and friends. You will be missed by your family and friends, RIP.

June 5, 2013

Judy Trevino

Phillip I am in awe of the man you became, but I will always cherish the silliest and happiest moments we all shared with you at HCHS. Miss you, bud!

June 4, 2013

Phillip, you were always as bright and welcoming as your artwork. Heaven has a new shining angel. You were a friend to many and we will miss you. I will keep your family and loved ones in my thoughts and prayers.

Deepest sympathies,
~ Deana Kilgore (Kaufmann)
HCHS Graduating Class of 1990

June 4, 2013

Cora Furr

Phillip I will always remember your fun loving way from our 4yrs together at Health Careers. You will be forever in our hearts and minds. God speed my friend

June 4, 2013

Michelle Puente

Rest in peace sweet Phillip. HCHS-Class of '90.

June 4, 2013

Mark Burgess

Although we lost touch after high school, I remember some great laughs in NHS and am grateful for all your help through various classes. The world has lost a great person, but your spirit remains. Thank you for the heroism you showed and may God shed his light upon your loved ones and comfort them during this time. Rest in Peace.

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